I have myself and all that i know the above but no one has told me why that can not happen.
plz give me researched answers plz
Is it against Islam?
Imam Khomenis daughters got married to Sunni men!
Are Syeds better than other families?
Has the any one made a Fatwa against it??
[This message has been edited by MAN CHALA (edited January 21, 2001).]
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An answer to your question needs to be given from two different perspectives: the legal perspective and the personal or the individual’s perspective.
As far as the legal perspective is concerned, marriage between two Adult Muslims cannot be hindered. No one has the legal right to hinder this marriage. Shiite and the Sunni schools are both legally recognized schools among Muslims. None of these two sects has been legally declared to be non-Muslim by the Muslim Ummah. Thus, marriage between individuals ascribing to these two sects actually implies marriage between two Muslims, which obviously cannot be hindered.
As far as the personal or the individual’s perspective is concerned, it is important to realize the socio-moral role that our family, our friends and our society plays in our lives. Although our family and our friends and peers do not have a legal authority to hinder our marriage and other personal decisions, yet they do, to a great extent, influence us in all our social decisions. In this situation, I would recommend that the family and the peers be convinced of the legal and moral rights of the individual in question and asked to accept the individual’s decisions. I think it would only be reasonable on the part of all family members to finally give in to the individual’s decision, as this is ultimately the individual’s right to make the decision. On the other hand, the individual be fully informed of the differences that exist between the followers of the two sects. Marriage is a life long commitment. Therefore, decisions regarding marriage should not be taken in haste. We must fully understand the beliefs and practices of the person with whom we plan to get married. If after our knowledge of the other person’s beliefs and practices, we are of the opinion that the differences are quite trivial and should not hinder us from marrying the individual, we may decide to marry that individual. On the contrary, if we believe the differences are quite significant, then we should avoid risking our own and the other person’s future by taking an emotional decision.
To summarize, in my opinion:
1. The referred marriage cannot be legally hindered.
2. Family and peers have a right to pursue an individual to take a decision, which in their opinion is more suited, keeping in mind that it is ultimately the individual’s prerogative to take the decision.
3. The individual should take the decision after a thorough understanding of the differences that exist between the two schools. Emotional decisions taken in haste and in ignorance may cost us our future happiness.
I hope this helps. In case any aspect of my answer remains unclear, please feel free in writing back to me at your own convenience.
May the Almighty guide us all to the path of His liking.
Regards
The Learner
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**Are Syeds better than other families?
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Most syeds have this problem of being better than others but I think this has also been borrowd from the hindu caste thing.
But we all shias are lectured that no one better or worse we are all the same. And by no means can Syeds be better as It really makes nil sense!!
there is an ayat that Allah says that he has chosen the progney of Ibraheem above all others(which is ment for ahle-bait)some think that as it is meant for ahle-bait as they are the progney of ahle-bait they are also better.
But this is not true as it is only ment for ahle-bait and not the sons or daughters of them!!
Well Said Shah Jahan,
Pakistani Muslims have borrowed a lot from Hindu culture. Can you believe that some families turn rishte down because they are not from the same caste! Isn't being a Muslim enough?
to all concerned and have taken on the challenge to find or to proove to all that all of us are MUslims first and any other thing afterwards.
PLease discuss this topic as seriously as possible because it effects many daughters and sons who have close family ties with each other but there ties ehich are hundreds of years long are broken by this issue.
This discussion will generate a point of view which many will follow.
this discussion could lead to harmony in religious harmony in Pakistan.
discuss, research and tell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You must be wondering that me dada was sunni than how the hell I am Shia?
well our family is still quite sunni but my dadas kids are all shai as my dadi converted all of them by taking them to majlis and sending them to Islami school on friday for deen.
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that is one of the reasons that there is very little cross school of thought/ learning.
considering your grandfather was not a very religious man (as you stated).. there was no problem..
but if one parent was shia other was sunni.. wouldn't you think half the kids will be shia half sunni.. or maybe kids taken to madrasas of both schools (shia & sunni).
Manchala,
Although you think it is very important ,but not for every one.Not everyone has this mixed situation.But the good news is now a days with ppl. globalizing ,i mean migrationg all over the world ,ppl.are marrying different religion ,nationality,race colour .
My personal view is marriage betweenMUSLIMS who may be of any sect punjabi ,indian,shia,wahabi,sunni,hanafi shaafi whatever as long as they are muslim,is better than inter religous as per Koran.
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Originally posted by blackzero:
** that is one of the reasons that there is very little cross school of thought/ learning.
considering your grandfather was not a very religious man (as you stated).. there was no problem..
but if one parent was shia other was sunni.. wouldn't you think half the kids will be shia half sunni.. or maybe kids taken to madrasas of both schools (shia & sunni).**
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Wait a minute.
This is not the case with us as sometimes or the other my dad takes me to dars(sunni gathering/majlis) and i go along willing to learn about the other sect and have found it quite interestin. I do not feel unwanted or anything even they know I'm not a ahle-sunnah but still respect my thought and the kids come and ask me questions regarding the topic and hear what I have to say!!
But somtimes i do leave un-happy as once......but that another time as I am here to bridge the gap not make it grow!! And I forgive them as it could be a naive statement.
But I do get angry here when you repeat somthin again and again and they just don't listen or even tryto understand.
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Can any of you get a FATWA from a syed(shia scholar that this is possible. This may be the only way to obtain true consent of the girls family.
Not really as marrige in Islam is for the couple to decide not the Scolar!!
But yes there does get problems in Nikah as the 2 are different.
But other than tat it is very rare a Alim will say that don't marry Sunnis!!
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