Are Pakistanis repressed?

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This can apply to some other ethnic groups but since I am Pakistani it's in the title. I have a few relatives, friends who seem to act like they're repressed but when I ask them what makes them so repressed it's always that there parents stop them from doing things. Like staying out to late, hanging with friends to much etc. These same people seem to keep telling me that "white and black" people aren't privy to these same rules but having spoken to many of my white and black friends they tell me their parents have in the past especially when they lived at home restricted them from staying out to late etc (even though they'd ignore it and still stay out till late etc) until they moved out etc.

So what is it about Pakistanis and some other ethnicities that makes them think they are so restricted? Is it cause they wanna date? Wanna drink? Be free to do haraam stuff and feel that their parents watchful eye restricts them from doing that?

Of course there's Pakistanis out there who are restricted, parents don't want them getting a job, or going university or talking to friends etc. I could understand their frustration but the pretenders that claim they've been restricted just cause they have no ambition in life to do anything, what is wrong with them? I know many Pakistanis who end up going university, end up dating, drinking etc just cause mommy and daddy have given their blessing and trust for them to move away to get an education or the ones who sit at home till they are in their mid 20s and now get a job and lose the plot within a year by getting tattoos, dating, smoking etc does that ​necessarily mean you have to lose your self respect, follow how western people behave or break your parents trust because you've been given some breathing space?

What is it with these types of people?

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I tried understanding the OP, but no avail. Its going in multiple directions.
A simple question would have made it easier.
As for the topic, the better way to say is that, do Pakistanis have family values? Yes they do. The family follows a certain principle (whether you agree with it or no), they sketch a boundary line. Hence the restriction. Its all a part of discipline.

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Seems to all be going in same direction to me. And no, my question isn’t “do Pakistanis have family values”. Don’t try derailing my thread.

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I’ve never faced these restrictions so Idk but I’d say most Paki families are really strict.

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Looks like u the one that is repressed

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About as repressed as your mom.

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Part of having a disciplined life is having some restrictions. Our restictions gives us values and character. Sometimes they are necessary but you don’t have to overdo them.

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[quote=““Santiago TheShepherd””]
Part of having a disciplined life is having some restrictions. Our restictions gives us values and character. Sometimes they are necessary but you don’t have to overdo them.
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Exactly that’s my point but my question is why especially with Pakistanis do they feel that these restrictions are only on them and that nobody else goes through them? And when some restrictions are lifted they can’t control themselves from doing dumb stuff?

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yes they are repressed, depressed, oppressed, regressed, messed, and every kind of essed up. There you go.

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So if the question is why Pakistanis go all out once the restrictions are lifted, I guess it all depends upon an individual. And it has nothing to do with Pakistanis, it can be anyone.

For example, its a very common perception here that when a lot of people come from country side, which is south. They try to go all urbanize and completely get lost. Now ofcourse not talking about wining and dining but the other stuff. And thats a impression southerners have in their area.

Similar thing I’ve heard about Europe. And very similar in India where a migration from village to city is regular due to employment and other reasons.

So your first sentence is true as you said yourself that it applies to all ethnicity. Pakistanis are as normal as others. Nothing different.

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:smack:. There’s just no point even having this discussion. I need to go back to Reddit.

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[quote=““Arcana Cabana””]
This can apply to some other ethnic groups but since I am Pakistani it’s in the title. I have a few relatives, friends who seem to act like they’re repressed but when I ask them what makes them so repressed it’s always that there parents stop them from doing things. Like staying out to late, hanging with friends to much etc. These same people seem to keep telling me that “white and black” people aren’t privy to these same rules but having spoken to many of my white and black friends they tell me their parents have in the past especially when they lived at home restricted them from staying out to late etc (even though they’d ignore it and still stay out till late etc) until they moved out etc.

So what is it about Pakistanis and some other ethnicities that makes them think they are so restricted? Is it cause they wanna date? Wanna drink? Be free to do haraam stuff and feel that their parents watchful eye restricts them from doing that?

Of course there’s Pakistanis out there who are restricted, parents don’t want them getting a job, or going university or talking to friends etc. I could understand their frustration but the pretenders that claim they’ve been restricted just cause they have no ambition in life to do anything, what is wrong with them? I know many Pakistanis who end up going university, end up dating, drinking etc just cause mommy and daddy have given their blessing and trust for them to move away to get an education or the ones who sit at home till they are in their mid 20s and now get a job and lose the plot within a year by getting tattoos, dating, smoking etc does that ​necessarily mean you have to lose your self respect, follow how western people behave or break your parents trust because you’ve been given some breathing space?

What is it with these types of people?
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Yes we mostly are repressed.. the main cause is Islam or Islamic Shariah.. it forbids us from doing haraam things, so our parents pay more than usual attention on our up-bringing.. and also it won’t be wrong saying Pakistanis are comparatively more repressed..

Partially you’re right about Pakistanis or Muslims.. but other ethnicities.. No it’s not always about date, drink or crap activites.. it’s about becoming or up-bringing a good and successful person..

Are you saying it generally?? because it’s every parent’s dream that their son gets a good **job **beside their daughters.. and also I didnt come across ANY kinda family yet who even forbids their daughters going to universities specially medical colleges..

the people you’re asking about may have various reasons, maybe due to inferiority complex, low courage, bad company or influence of western culture and above all they’re too lazy and lack abilities to do anything in their lives.. sadly those types are becoming majority.. Sigh!!

also, you make sure they’re really restricted or just blaming their parents for no reason..

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[quote=““Hakuna Matata””]

Yes we mostly are repressed.. the main cause is Islam or Islamic Shariah.. it forbids us from doing haraam things, so our parents pay more than usual attention on our up-bringing.. and also it won’t be wrong saying Pakistanis are comparatively more repressed..

Partially you’re right about Pakistanis or Muslims.. but other ethnicities.. No it’s not always about date, drink or crap activites.. it’s about becoming or up-bringing a good and successful person..

Are you saying it generally?? because it’s every parent’s dream that their son gets a good **job **beside their daughters.. and also I didnt come across ANY kinda family yet who even forbids their daughters going to universities specially medical colleges..

the people you’re asking about may have various reasons, maybe due to inferiority complex, low courage, bad company or influence of western culture and above all they’re too lazy and lack abilities to do anything in their lives.. sadly those types are becoming majority.. Sigh!!

also, you make sure they’re really restricted or just blaming their parents for no reason..
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I get your point but I disagree with some of it. I’m just over the thread to bother keeping it alive at this point. Thank you for taking the time at answering my question properly though, thought I would at least acknowledge your effort :flowers:

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