Reading this forum, seems like everyone and their mothers is doing it. Are these as prevalent in other non-Pakistani Muslims also?
Re: Are other non-Pakistani Muslims so gung-ho about "inter family" marriages?
Please can you elaborate or clarify the question. You may get more responses.
Re: Are other non-Pakistani Muslims so gung-ho about "inter family" marriages?
He's asking if there's a large number of nonpakistani/nondesi muslims out there that are ok with marrying cousins. At least thats what I think..
I dont think any of them are ok with it. Most cases stem from emotional blackmail and/or force by elder relatives.
Re: Are other non-Pakistani Muslims so gung-ho about "inter family" marriages?
I wonder if this is done in Malaysia. I know Arabs are fond of inter-marrying.
He's asking if there's a large number of nonpakistani/nondesi muslims out there that are ok with marrying cousins. At least thats what I think..
I dont think any of them are ok with it. Most cases stem from emotional blackmail and/or force by elder relatives.
LOL..thank you for the clarification! I was aware of what he/she (on this forum you dont know!) was saying but felt that the lack of response may have been due to the vagueness of the question.:)
I work with a Malaysian and have two Malaysian undergraduate students doing their undergrad projects with me, so we've discussed these kinds of cultural differences. It does happen, some parents encourage it but i don't think it's as prevalent from what i hear.
It's funny, my colleague likes to think that this sort of cultural stuff; things to with family politics and the way marriages happen in Malay culture have been strongly influenced by Indian subcontinent tradition mixing with Malay tradition (in a negative sense). I'm just like 'uh huh'.
Most likely, women trying to control their families is the same all over the world ;)
Re: Are other non-Pakistani Muslims so gung-ho about “inter family” marriages?
Arabs (Saudis I know do it A LOT, I read somewhere over 50% of them marry cousins) as well as desis (Indians and Bangladeshis seem to do it less than Pakistanis tho). We don’t have any cousin marriages in our family at all, they actually discourage it. One of my best friends is half Malaysian and she told me cousin marriage isn’t so common in their culture.
This shocked me, esp the last bit:
‘A BBC report[4]](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_couple#cite_note-3) found that Pakistanis in Britain, 55% of whom marry a first cousin, are 13 times more likely than the general population to produce children with genetic disorders, and that one in ten children of cousin marriages either dies in infancy or develops a serious disability. Thus Pakistani-Britons, who account for some 3% of all births in the UK, produce “just under a third” of all British children with genetic illnesses.’
Source: Cousin couple - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
I know one or two cousin marriages in a family is no big deal but this is what happens when generation after generation only marry within their famly.
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I have already mentioned in another post that medically it takes 7 generations of intermarrying to develop genetic disorders anomalies. This doesnt mean that if you are a 2nd or 3rd generation that you WONT have any issues but the risk is minimally higher than a non cousin couple.
He's asking if there's a large number of nonpakistani/nondesi muslims out there that are ok with marrying cousins. At least thats what I think..
I dont think any of them are ok with it. Most cases stem from emotional blackmail and/or force by elder relatives.
Yes that is what I am asking.
I take it you have never lived in Pakistan?
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I've heard that it's common amongst Muslim and non-Muslim Iranis as well.
Yes that is what I am asking.
I take it you have never lived in Pakistan?
Not more than one or two months on visits with the family. Pakistani or desi muslims that marry cousins do so willingly. My mother is Russian and she is totally against letting us kids marry within the family. Me and my siblings feel teh same. My cousins wife is spanish and converted to Islam and she would die rather than marry her kids off to cousins, although one of her sons is completely smitten by one of his cousins here in NY. The rest of his siblings however are of the same school of thought as their mother, that its disgusting and wrong and no one should marry within the family. Nondesis have a harder time accepting it methinks as opposed to desis.
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I couldn't marry a cousin! I've seen it happen in the UK more than here but I could be wrong
We should all believe everything written on Wikipedia…it is so reliable with impeccable reputation … …NOT
Re: Are other non-Pakistani Muslims so gung-ho about "inter family" marriages?
It's not as common in indian muslim families. I think it's already been said though. I know a family who thought it was very strange as no one in the extended family or friends/neighbors married cousins, and it was really unheard of for them.
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i think it depends...immarrying my cousin, but his mum is not related at all to our family and my dad is not related to my mum..so we are the first first cousins to be geting married..also gorey dnt marry their cousin, they also have disabled offspring...
its all in the hands of allah.....thats how i see it
i think it depends...immarrying my cousin, but his mum is not related at all to our family and my dad is not related to my mum..so we are the first first cousins to be geting married..*also gorey dnt marry their cousin, they also have disabled offspring...
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its all in the hands of allah.....thats how i see it
Convincing us, or yourself?