No one is talking about the emotional protection that I talked about. Fathers can take care of all the logistics that mother can.
Can I see some views on that please?
nowadays I have seen many fathers providing their kids with emotional support just like mothers do.
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My father is a single parent and while I have to admit that at first it was too much for him to handle, he has gotten over the stress and anxiety that he had in dealing with us. He is so much more patient now, totally understands us and our needs, gives us our space but hasnt let us go totally crazy with freedom, and no matter how much work he has or whatever errands he needs to run, he always makes time for everyone and gives all his attention and energy. He is always there for us when we need him, and I thank God for blessing me with such a loving and devoted father.
He is doing a superb job and while he could never completely fulfill the role of our mother, he is doing as much as he can for us the little ones especially to not feel that void too much.
Parenting itself is no easy job, and I commend those who are taking such a huge task on themselves and doing everything single-handedly.
Sure we can be biased but I guess the answer is hidden in the age of the child. If less than 12-13, I think mothers should get the custody unless mother has a character flaw.
Father cannot give that emotional protection to a young child that a mother can.
Your thoughts?
and along the same lines one can say the mother can not provide the same overall protection to a young child that a father can. physical, financial, societal etc.
but since guys are the ones who get shortchanged, so let me not try to counter that and just go with the flow...
so kids under 12-13, all things being equal, mother gets custody, fine. do you expect her to stay single or get married and if she gets married do you think that a stepfather is better than a stepmother. Would kids be better off with biological father and stepmother or biological mother and step father.
aap log custody par kyun rukk gaye, uss kay aagay bhi dunya hai :)
..lets see what ppl got now
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This is a question that can really only be answered on a case-by-case basis IMHO. Like X2 said, its typically the dad that provides the most income and physical support. Sometimes, the dads provide the majority of the emotional support too. Not always, surely but sometimes at least. But I really dont think that this is something that one can "generalize" about yeah? Each person and each family is different and when things deteriorate to the point that the family must split, it sadly comes down to figuring out what is best for the kids without bringing in animosities between the parents. Sometimes that means they should be with mom most of the time and sometimes it means they should be with dad. In either case, its the kids that should be considered and leave any and all animosities out of their realm.
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what does IMHO mean?
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it means "in my humble opinion"....some say that it means "in my honest opinion"...either way I guess you get the point...
Like you said TLK it really depends on the age.....
generally speaking...I think mothers make a better single parent.
From my understanding Islamically....custody of children go to mother while the kids are young...when kids get older custody goes to father. Must be a reason for that.
I didnt know that...thats awesome but what about when girls get older and need a female to identify and talk to?
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most likely But not necessarily.
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I think each parent provides different things for a child...mother or father.
Single parents do not have an easy job and ones that work hard to provide a healthy lifestyle for their children deserve recognition for it. Man, that has got to be hard.
these things are just so complicated :(
and along the same lines one can say the mother can not provide the same overall protection to a young child that a father can. physical, financial, societal etc.
but since guys are the ones who get shortchanged, so let me not try to counter that and just go with the flow...
so kids under 12-13, all things being equal, mother gets custody, fine. do you expect her to stay single or get married and if she gets married do you think that a stepfather is better than a stepmother. Would kids be better off with biological father and stepmother or biological mother and step father.
aap log custody par kyun rukk gaye, uss kay aagay bhi dunya hai :)
..lets see what ppl got now
I didnt know that...thats awesome but what about when girls get older and need a female to identify and talk to?
it's not like their mothers are not around....their mothers are still a huge part of their life even if they dont live with them. We are talking about "physical custody" of the child.......thats all.
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This thread was posted with the intent to provoke and hence no good will come out of it.
There is no right and wrong and you cannot compare one situation to another. People tend to be different, situations are diferent. Its only those who live the nightmares that know the truth.
Just sitting with a cup of chai launching into topics that one has no right to and giving examples like my friend this and my friend of a friend is almost comical.
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^^ thats soo true
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I guess it's true that when people don't have their own personal experiences they do like to give examples of those they see around them. lol.
Anyhow, this is just another discussion thread like many others on this forum, no specific agenda in mind and definitely not to upset anyone.
Sure we can be biased but I guess the answer is hidden in the age of the child. If less than 12-13, I think mothers should get the custody unless mother has a character flaw.
Father cannot give that emotional protection to a young child that a mother can.
Your thoughts?
Yes it depends on child's age and gender, for girls they should be with their mothers until the age of 13 to 15 and for boys they should be staying with their mothers until the age of 7.
The role of mother is more important than the father in young children's life as to recieve mother's warmth of love.
But when children reach a certain age (as mentioned above) the role of fathers become more important.....reasearch shows that there are more chances for fatherless teen boys to indulge in drugs, homosexuality and crimes and for fatherless teen girls more chances to get pregnant.
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And for single mothers, they should introduce their kids(girls above the age of 10 to 12 and boys above 7) to a male as their mentor, may be their stepfather or uncle etc.
For parents not getting married until their kids are grown up doesn't sound logical.