Re: Are LATE MARRIAGES a problem?
Btw girls who marry later don't tend to wait till they're so old it's difficult for them to concieve lol, mid/late twenties to early thirties should not be a big deal. The few girls I do know from more professional families who got married before 23/24 have waited to have kids till their late twenties/early thirties anyway.. My Mum waited 6 or 7 yrs to have her first child and that was soooooo many yrs ago when ppl really thought it was a scandal..
I married at the ripe old age of 35, although both younger sisters married before me. There is a mixture of everything that has been discussed before. We are financially secure, mature, enjoy each others company, understand etc etc etc, however both of us are very strong minded, very difficult to change each others way of thinking.
to counter that age has played a great role in accepting the flaws and learning to manage and work with them in a mature way.
the old biological clock has slowed considerably, however i thank our maturity for dealing with this in a positive and logical way. would love to have kids, however if it doesnt happen, then maybe its not meant to be.
I see my younger siblings with kids and reasonably happy, and only from the point of having kids do i wish i had married younger, other than that i am happy i married when i did.
i just want to say that kids dont have anything to do with age..i have seen MANY womens who gave birth to a child when these ladies were over 40...so agar ALLAH ne apke naseeb mai bache likhe hoge to zaroor hoge Insha ALLAH :)
25 is not old.
Desi men just want them young and innocent so they can have their virgins and mold them. Shoe them an independent woman in her 30's and she becomes a threat. These same guys will date anyone that gives them a chance.
Depends on the family. A lot of us girls are getting into our 30's pursuing degrees and careers and we are single. In my family, avg age of marriage is 30's after completing graduate level studies.
Then you same women go out there to find somebody your age or close to it..and most of the case you girls are unsuccessful..you know why? Because..we prefer girl 4-5 years younger to be exact. Secondly, if you are in 30s..most of you look for somebody who is mid or late 30s guy..whose half of life is gone anyways...and therefore he is just no more than sperm giving machine!
The whole point of marriage is to enjoy the marriage and go through ups and downs of life to learn something valuable to work together. And please..so much for " Independent woman in her 30's become threat"...you know why these women are un-attractive to us??. It is not because they are independent..it is because they are freakin BORING!. And trust me i've seen it all!..and you know not only these "independent woman" want a guy..but she wants to have control over poor guy. And we despise controlling women.!
Then you same women go out there to find somebody your age or close to it..and most of the case you girls are unsuccessful..you know why? Because..we prefer girl 4-5 years younger to be exact. Secondly, if you are in 30s..most of you look for somebody who is mid or late 30s guy..whose half of life is gone anyways...and therefore he is just no more than sperm giving machine! The whole point of marriage is to enjoy the marriage and go through ups and downs of life to learn something valuable to work together. And please..so much for " Independent woman in her 30's become threat"...you know why these women are un-attractive to us??. It is not because they are independent..it is because they are freakin BORING!. And trust me i've seen it all!..and you know not only these "independent woman" want a guy..but she wants to have control over poor guy. And we despise controlling women.!
Wow, I don't even know where to begin with this ignorant post. It requires some serious dissection. Most of what you've said is a total fallacy.
I think there are lots of guys out there that think like you, and I think most of us career girls try to avoid guys like you.
So...works out.
Re: Are LATE MARRIAGES a problem?
BTW, conceiving and carrying a successful pregnancy is totally possible and common in your 30’s.
Risk of Down syndrome hits like 35 and above, for which you can get prenatal testing. Even then, its not COMMON. Just an increased risk, that’s all.
In fact, you have a greater risk, I think, of having demented kids if you marry too much in your family, as oppose to having a baby at 35. But you don’t see desis letting up on cousin marriages, do you??
Most women I know who delivered, did so in their 30’s. Even most of the girls around me - they’re not married (non-desis). The dessans are all pretty much married at this point.
My mom got married at 30 and had me at 33 and my sister at 39. We are both normal.
Mostly.
And the sex is FINE in your 30’s. 
And 30 year old women are NOT boring. more eye rolling
I don’t know where men get these ideas from.
Re: Are LATE MARRIAGES a problem?
The age old saying holds true that women in 30's are as horny as boys in teens.
Re: Are LATE MARRIAGES a problem?
Honestly. All you guys and ladies can concentrate on teh fact that she might have messed up children? FYI, the older a guy gets, the more messed up his swimmers get too, because the body is losing its capabilities of getting rid of the little retards. Also, miscarriags also occur because the little swimmers are messed up, and it makes a messed up baby. Nothing to do with ovaries and other crackpot theories you are coming up with. Women have been able to bring forth healthy, normal children right up until they hit menopause in the past, and they will continue to do that still.
Also, an enlightened man wouldn't really care about the age gap. He wouldn't mind being with someone older than him either. Heck, an unlightened man in my books is someone who gets married to a girl who is 10 or more years his junior.
Society will always have issues with whatever you do. You can be a CEO of a company, earning 1milllion every minute, and they will still say crap. So would you rather have your peace of mind and do what you think is right, or follow what society dictates because they can't keep their noses in their businesses?
Yes I know society says that women should be married by 24, but if you're getting married solely for that reason, then I shudder to imagine what the married life would be in that situaiton.
In the UK the average marriage age is 31 for men and 29 for women, granted tho quite a few will have kids before then but even when they don’t u don’t see many women around that age struggling to concieve. Most desi inlaws/parents are desperate to have grandkids for social reasons (how sad is it when some mothers actually act as tho it’s a race to see who can become a grandmother first 
) , in health terms it’s not exactly that much of an advantage to have kids in late teens/early twenties..
I saw this programme on some Bangladeshi channel the other day about a remote island where all the girls are married off not long after puberty. One girl was actually saying that she was considered **too old for marriage at the age of 12. **A lot of them ended up as grandparents in their thirties..Wasn’t unusual for their husbands to get younger models as well as they got older 
I'm not against early/late marriage, all I would want is for the couple to wait until they actually have something positive to offer a child before having the child. Too many inept people are breeding and raising stupid children, filling this world with more inept people to perpetuate the cycle. If it means waiting x amount of years (biologically permitting) so you can improve yourself religiously, emotionally, financially etc then you should.
Honestly. All you guys and ladies can concentrate on teh fact that she might have messed up children? FYI, the older a guy gets, the more** messed up his swimmers get too, because the body is losing its capabilities of getting rid of the little retards.** Also, miscarriags also occur because the little swimmers are messed up, and it makes a messed up baby. Nothing to do with ovaries and other crackpot theories you are coming up with. Women have been able to bring forth healthy, normal children right up until they hit menopause in the past, and they will continue to do that still.
Also, an enlightened man wouldn't really care about the age gap. He wouldn't mind being with someone older than him either. Heck, an unlightened man in my books is someone who gets married to a girl who is 10 or more years his junior.
Society will always have issues with whatever you do. You can be a CEO of a company, earning 1milllion every minute, and they will still say crap. So would you rather have your peace of mind and do what you think is right, or follow what society dictates because they can't keep their noses in their businesses?
Yes I know society says that women should be married by 24, but if you're getting married solely for that reason, then I shudder to imagine what the married life would be in that situaiton.
Hahahahahahahahahaha!