Why is it that most women seem to suffer from low self esteem and insecurity while most men seem to think they are the best thing since sliced bread? Does genetic makeup have something to do with it? Are women programmed to feel that they are never good enough for some reason that has to do with the betterment of ‘man’kind (sic)? Or is it the they are programmed as a gender? Maybe the only way to make room for womens’ huge egos is to hollow out the self esteem and make ourselves emotionally concave.
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why or Are girls being raised with higher standards of perfection and less leeway than boys? Do women find it harder to internalize success or even feel adequate because the standards being set for them are too stringent?
Born with a natural advantage (male in a patriarchal world), We also have the advantage of not having unnaturally perfect standards to measure up to. The reason for this may be that the primary caregiver is still the mother in most societies. A mother who was brought up internalizing the stringent standards she was expected to meet naturally transfers them on to the heir-apparent, the daughter. When it came to men, all that she saw was that they are expected to provide materially. They were criticised less frequently for not being physically attractive, for not helping out at home, for being out of the house most of the time, for not compromising in a marital relationship, for not being ‘good’ fathers (it’s funny that the definition for that is very subjective, whereas that of a good mother is quite objective and universal). We were given easier standards to measure up to and therefore grew up more comfortable in their own skin, feeling more worthy and deserving.
Maybe that is why women feel that they are never beautiful enough, never smart enough, never successful enough (or perhaps even too successful), while the pulchritudinously-challenged clerk that sits outside the bosses door thinks the sun shines out of his ass.
** **Feminism is a lost cause until women figure this out. How do you convince someone you’re just as good as them when you don’t really believe it yourself?
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not in the mood of flasafa right now… will read later
