S02
April 18, 2011, 10:23pm
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Re: Aqeeqah gift
I don’t know what is acceptable but my mom and I are facing this situation we went to visit my best friend as she just had a baby boy and we gifted her chocolates for herself and cash for baby. Now 2 weeks later we are also invited to the aqeeqah. Mom regrets giving her gift in advance and thinks its going to be ackward to go empty handed, however…
Personally I think its ok to go in empty handed, because we have already given our official gift, and some people have a limited capacity on what they can afford to give anyways based on how many occasions come up for them in the long run. I mean mashAllah this far into the year my family has already provided gifts for 4 weddings, with one more coming up this weekend (5 total). A gift for a wedding is $100 minimum each separate for rukhsati and walima and $50 minimum for seeing a baby, based on relation and how personal they are it would be more so it adds up. A small follow up gift is not going to come cheap either if you are looking for something decent. I personally don’t really think its embarassing, against etiquettes, or offensive to just walk in empty handed provided that you have already gifted in advance…
It’s not something to stress or fuss over. But it’s nice to give children, especially babies, something. You can take a story book, a stuffed animal, whatever. It can even be something to accessorize the original gift, almost as a reminder of what you have given as well.