I mentioned about a friend of mine in my previous thread related to when a man misses a woman.
Here is something in continuation of that story. So i met the friend again and she told me that she and the guy had a discussion over whether they should have nikkah or engagement. The guy doesnt want to take chances and is for the engagement, my friend on the other hand is satisfied with her decision and wants to go for nikkah. I get the feeling she is sounding desperate to him even though its meant not to be that way because she wants the nikkah so that its more legal and she can get her visa processing till then. During the conversation, she told me that although the reasons were family’s willingness for nikkah and Visa processing, she ended up looking clingy and desperate instead. She said i could feel the vibe of the guy getting scared of such rush of events and what-ever-is-wrong-with-this-girl kind of feeling even though she was the one who was talking sense.
I think its understandle if the guy needs more time but in such situations girls being girls tend to seem and look more needy. Its natural with girls because when they commit themselves with some one, they go forward with it whole heartedly. Guys, on the other hand take their time to open up and take one step at a time. Wonder what girls should do in such situations to not appear that desperate and needy when they are even talking sense.
