for one wo can understand this fine distinction between an abuse, a compromise, and an open hearted two-way regard for each other
noone else will have to then intervene nor induce fears or hate or anger against two hears who knew each other.
both women and men, who are honest with themselves and with their
significant others/ soul mates - married or otherwise, do indeed feel
a sense of connection that is purer than anything describable in words.
but, if the lessons learnt are ‘brought on’ due to on-going confusion,
due to absence of speech among themselves, rather than improving
things, people let mellow feelings over take
and even a happy event will become an unwelcome casualty.
the reality of this is a subtle slow death of positive emotions and an
ability to embrace the WHOLE of the other person who one would think that one
cannot live without or truly be in an expected caring relation built on
pure love for each other, for life.
women, in general are well aware of their own feelings and that is why
their weeping is a call out for realization in others of how hurt they
are.
men, make the pretence that they are not capable of calling out for a
realization… solely because they are men.
some lessons in life, are self-imposed and may well be uncalled
for, yet, the fear is so much that taking one step can feel like an
unbearable move, unless it is made, unless one is strong in one’s resolve to
let it be and have faith and not use up others and then leave, feeling that
one can do so, innocently.
things in a hang up like this, do not result in bonding or healing for
that matter, because negative feelings from before are still haunting the individual
who must take the step to her / his true heart felt happiness.
any thoughts?