anyone at all?

Lifestyle Relationships
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i will get on well with them inshallah :blush:

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Are you saying people who sacrifice their privacy to make a relationship work are dependant and prefer to live under another authority? I wonder what your husband says about living with inlaws. :slight_smile:
It’s easy to distance yourself…the character of a person is more appreciable if he/she is willing to make sacrifices. To me, an initiative is more important than the actual sacrifice.

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So Fayz who is she then? Give us the scoop.

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I have a fairly good relationship with my in laws too alhamdulillah..BUT it took a ton of work. They were very nervous/anxious about me at first, worried that i might turn their son against them as all their friends have told me such stories ..so at the beginning they required a ton of pacifying and attention ..my husband and his siblings gave me advice and helped too.

Now my husband is just amazed at how happy they are with me and how comfortable they are with me....

It takes work and to be honest at first ignoring a few oddities ..and getting used to different styles..but in the end you benefit from it.

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^ bravo :k: u may notice that most of the ppl giving thier opinions are not married including me :blush: oooopsss!!!

Poet of the month of Sept..Farhat Abbas Shah
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That is SO TRUE! Everyday I have to work hard at maintaining the relationship. Honestly, at times I get really annoyed at certain things, or even pissed off. But, alhamdulilah, with Allah swt’s help, I try to move forward and forget about things that have happened. :blush:

King Kong VS Godzilla
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Why make a sacrifice, why can’t you just do things to make yourself happy? Anyway its my personal opinion and I stick to it. If living withone anyone, lets says Inlaws, read some of DD’s journal you are dependant on them, never you can do what you want, live ur life, but if someone wants to live that life, its their choice but not all prefer that kind of life. Of course living alone does has its downfalls, like you have to work more, earn more and do everything yourself as living in a family, so its all personal choice, I’m not saying that its a bad choice but not for me.
Plus my husband knows my feelings, we both agree that we want to live independantly, but if his or my parents ever need help we will help them in anyway possible, even if it means living with them or with us.
My MIL was also who prefered to live without her inlaws, as she wanted to avoid the family politics and fights, so she is not someone who puts her will on others. I love my MIL like my own mother and so does she.
When my kids are grown up, never will I prefere they live with me, I would want them to have their own place.