i have a few questions
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i *was *working... just quit to be a SAHM. what can i help with?
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SAHM?
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^Stay At Home Mom
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I've done both...stopped working when my eldest was born, went back to work when my twins entered kindergarten...what questions do you have?
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Working since the baby was six weeks old and Alhamdulillah no issues.. what questions do you abve?
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Hi guys, general questions.
How did u cope with the pregnancy? How much was your maternity leave? What child care arrangements did u have?
Gemini how do u manage both work and baby esp when the baby was very young? Does it get easier? How much support did u have from your spouse?
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Hi guys, general questions. How did u cope with the pregnancy? How much was your maternity leave? What child care arrangements did u have?
Gemini how do u manage both work and baby esp when the baby was very young? Does it get easier? How much support did u have from your spouse?
Pregnancy.. VERY hard.. I was throwing up for 17 weeks.. I used to run to the bathroom at work to throw up.. I was exhausted.. second trimester was horrible, I had several trips to ER, I had severe leg and back pain that kept me awake all night, had gall stones that painw as worse than labor.. BUT my work was very accomodating! There were times I came in late but no one said anything.. I have had the best boss ever.. honestly, otherwise I would have quit working! I worked until Friday and my baby was born Sunday night.. I tried to schedule things for Monday but my boss thought I wont make it to Monday and she was so darn right :D
I only had 4 weeks of maternity leave.. I saved up my vacation and sick time and was able to take 8 weeks off but then since I didnt even take a day off before the baby was born so yep I was home with him for 8 weeks! (not 6 as I mentioned previously)
It was easy when the baby was young.. my mom was here so she took care of him during the dya and since as a new born they do sleep a lot, it was easier to manage.. once my mom left, my husband and I work alternate schedules (me day, him evening) so as soon as I enetered home, he left! He was VERY cooperative, I dont know any guy in my family who has changed as many diapers as my husband so Alhamdulillah for everything!
I tried to bf but it didnt work well so my baby was on formula since he was 6 weeks old so milk wasn't an issue.. I did bf him at night until about he was 4 months old though!
My mom is here again but she is going back to Pakistan in a month or so, baby will be 10 months old inshaAllah and we are looking for a day care for him.. my husband's job now isnt as flexible as it used to be so switching schedule may nto work as well as it did before.
Once again, my work is very accomodating... if my husband couldnt stay home, I used to bring him to work or work from home, if possible and my boss didnt have any issues with it.. in fact he is probably more used to people at my work than he is with friends and family that we meet occassionally :D
Hope this helps.. if you have any more questions, please feel free to ask!
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hi gemi do u think u wud have coped had ur mom not been here and both u and SO were working full time?
i am wondering if it can be done without family support?
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Im a working mama... and with another on the way :)
with the first one, I took a year off work (am in Aus and we're entitled to a full year of maternity leave). I finished up about 3 weeks before she was due.... and its the same this time round as well.
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I was working while pregnant, and generally it was not really problematic EXCEPT:
at the very beginning, before I was telling anyone, and I was quite nauseous.
toward the end when walking and sitting and everything was just generally exhausting, and I didn't want to admit it.
My state requires that employers give 12 weeks of maternity leave, if requested, BUT it does not have to be paid at all. I was only paid for as long as my sick leave lasted. I decided to switch to being a SAHM, so did not have to consider childcare.
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hi gemi do u think u wud have coped had ur mom not been here and both u and SO were working full time? i am wondering if it can be done without family support?
yes we woudl have but it would be very difficult!
My mom had gone back when my baby was 3 months old so we managed it by ourselves and like I said, it was hard but doable!
Since I had a c section, it was great to have my mom around to help us with everything, besides that, I had been approached by several community members willing to help me out since it's such a tight knit community here but Alhamdulillah we really didnt have to use it. But yes, if mom wasnt here, I would have fully used that help!
If your husband is supportive n cooperative, you can do it.. I know several girls who have had babies with just their husbands around.. it worked for them Alhamdulillah!
I am dreading the day care for him in a month or so but it is what it is.. I am sure he will enjoy that inshaAllah.
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^ i had A LOT of peopel around with munchkin.... too many people.. too many frustrations. I dealt better with munchkin when noone but the hubby was at home. Seriously.
I just found everyone had their own opinion about EVERYTHING... and as a new mum, that was more exhausting than actually looking after the bubba...
Its gonna be the same this time round... but im hoping the years have matured me and I am better able to cope with this all.. and let people know to butt out when they dont need to be there. I am hoping greatly to be a lot more strong willed this time.. lol