he is looking for a new place and suggesting a place between his job and his sister’s place.
I want to aviod living near her place or on her way to job/home from job.
i dont want to be rude so what can i say to aviod living there??
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say whatever you want, he'll still end up living near her.
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don't be rude.
say exactly how you feel.....politely and keeping in mind how you would like to hear the same comment coming from him regarding your sister.
never avoid saying stuff.
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I agree with Muzna (she always gives great advice).
U guys need to talk to each other about how u feel and understand each others concerns.
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depends on the place. if you guys are planning to rent a place then its better not to say anything right now because its comparatively easier to move if things aren't going great {considering that you are newly wed, so trying to be at distant from your sister in law might gonna effect your relationships with your inlaws}. and if you guys are planning to purchase a place then you Must have your Say now. {considering that you are newly wed and he will surely listen to you for the first few months anyways :-P}
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Well I cant be direct and say that I dont want to live near her. He has a lot of sympathy for her due to her separation issues with her husband. I feel sorry for her too and have been there for her as much as possible, but I know that she doesnt like me, she intrudes in my privacy etc etc so I would rather meet her once a while instead of living near her and have difficulty in avioding her.
I feel sorry that things developed this way, but I need to face the reality and that is that she doesnt like me and does whatever possible for her brother to dislike me. She hasnt succedded yet but I dont wanna take any risk!!
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Chameli, he's your HUSBAND, you should be able to tell him how you feel. I might be wrong, but you've gotten married recently, it is unwise to start a life together feeling that you can't tell him things or talk to him. Marriage is about compromise and putting your spouse's needs ahead of your sister's. If he is any kind of decent man, he will listen to you.
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what wud u tell him if u were in my shoes??
“I am sorry but I dont wanna live near ur sis cuz I feel that she doesnt respect me”
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P.S I am not married yet...1 month to go
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How about...
"We are moving to a new house, OUR house, and while I respect/love/sympathise with your sister, I feel that we need to spend as much time with each other as we can. I respect that you love and care for your sister and want to be there for her and I want to be there for her too, but I also value my privacy, I value OUR privacy. I feel that if we live that close to her we might lose that privacy."
Something along those lines.
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I personally wouldnt mind living near my in-laws .....i would be happy just living in a place of my own.
however if your unhappy.....just tell him how you feel. Tell him that you feel that you wont get any privacy and that it's not just HIS sister...... you wouldnt want to live near your own family either.
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thanks:)
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If his sister is a source of contention then away from her.
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Chameli....give your sister in law a chance..you are not even married yet and she may change later on...and you may become best friends...I think it is too early to say you don't like her.
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I have known her for 1½ yr and she misbehaved with me again and again.only stupid ppl wud allow it to happen again!!
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Very natural!! but Love and Prayers work wonders!
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kaccha chobajao iss ko....masla hi khatam...