I dont mind you asking me this, i am sure with my views like this every other girl wants to ask me this same question. Well dont think i am this very self sacrificing girl who wl go into her inlaws and tolerate their abuse, wrong demands, etc. All i know is that i am gonna go in to my new family (whenever that happens) with an open mind, no precieved notions that oh all inlaws r evil n all dat and i am gonna do my 101% to be happy myself and keep them happy too. I think its difficult but not impossible. You should be ready to adapt to the atmosphere ofcourse not at the cost of your respect, never!!!. But i know i would do whatever it takes to make sure i dont become the cause of breaking up any family. InshaAllah i will make sure of that…To me my family is very important and i would hate to see them apart so i would want the same for my husband’s family which wl eventually become mine after marriage.
I think marriages r very difficult to make work but if you are honest to yourself and your family you will make it work at any cost. So yah if my mother in law is demanding i would do my best to understand her point of view and adjust however if she is just demanding me to do something thats against my ethics, morals i will sit down with her and let her know. No sane person can ask you to do wrong but if its just different customs then i had try and strike a balance. See even parents at times have different views than you but that doesnt make you leave them or dislike them.