any nand here? (talking abt world famous SIL)..

Lifestyle Relationships
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All threads i see, most (if not all) the married ladies here are sick of their in-laws n stuff..

anyone here is/been herself one of the In-laws??

how was/is your bhabi?..is she all fine,considerate,loving,understanding and like an angel?

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Re: any nand here? (talking abt world famous SIL)..

i love my sis in law, or i guess in hindi/urdu bhabi, she is truly the sweetest, cutest, understanding, angelic, smart, beautiful person, she's wonderful :) she helps me out too.

i do everything to make sure she's happy since she left her family to be a part of our family so my parents and we all are extra careful with what we say and do around her just so we don't unintentionally hurt her although she knows that i'm not at my best right now so she isn't critical of me.

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I get on ok with my SIL but we're very different, she's v.traditional and actually asked to move into our home for a while after marriage (against my dad's wishes) whilst that would be like my worst nightmare :D She's very girly and I'm much more of a tomboy so we're like chalk and cheese but having said that we've never had an argument or had that awful stereotypical situation with the SILs competing with each other. She loves her shalwar khameez, sarees and gold whilst I couldn't really care less about all that stuff so perhaps that's a reason why there's no jealousy or anything there. At the start my mum did seem to stir it a bit between us by saying stuff like 'look how much she buys, what is she wearing' etc but when two ppl are so different there's no feeling there of the need to compete or be better than the other (from my side anyway lol)..

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i have a bhabi and she makes my brother happy so thats ALL that matters.. quite frankly i hanvt had any issues with my own nands either. its usually the MIL who are difficut to get along with.

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I have a bhabhi. I spend all my time thinking of evil plans to make her life miserable. How dare someone else be of importance to my brother!

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I have a new bhabi. No issues. She is a very sweet person. I don't see any big issues coming up AT ALL. I can't speak for smaller issues either, but don't want to rule them out, because no one is perfect.

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I have three bhabiz , although most of times am away from home and in one year’s time period i am at home for hardly one & half month but they dont like me for even that much time :bummer:

I get my own maid to do my things and cook to cook for me. No burden on them at all apparently they are OK on my face but i heard them talking ill about me that why do i come to make their life miserable :confused: . I am not interfering kind of bandi, mostly am locked in my room or busy chit chatting with amma abba. I am close to my nieces and nephews and buy them loads of things, take them out for dinner or outing. I am not Dependant on my brothers, i never ask them for anything neither i take any favours from them. Still SIL’s are something i never understand how to make them happy. :rolleyes:

I dont know why they feel i make their life miserable when I dont bother them at all or its just the notorious relationship :tamatarr:

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I have 5 bhabis(one brother got 2 of them). I like them all. They make my brothers happy, some make them very happy.
They go to the room grumpy and come out laughing in the morning :hmmm: Bhabis must have some real nice joke books :hmmm:

One with 2, they come out most happy.

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Aww, she is so lucky to have you! You guys are so sweet in making her settle in etc..

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hello.im a nanad and also a bhabhi .
i have 3 bhabhiz n i have 6 nanad but i don't hav any issues with any one
bcoz mjhy apni life me ko dakhal andazi pasand nhi aur na hi dosrun ki zindagi ko kharab karny ka shok he.
Is liye" JEO AUR JENY DO"

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ok..so all you nands here.......do all your bhaabi's get along with your mom nicely? no problems?

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That makes you a good sister in law :k:

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we're totally different in terms of the environment we grew up in she grew up in a tiny town in india and i in the States but our whole family is very conservative, traditional but open minded and flexible if that makes sense so whatever she was used to in terms of her life before marriage to my bro, we actually adjusted to her so she wouldn't feel as homesick

my mommy is not the typical monster in law as is usually described. She was pretty flexible with bhabi, there was no power clash b/c my mom did everything to help her with cooking and cleaning, didn't really object to any big decisions made by bhabi and there was no stubbornness or old world thinking of whatever the MIL said was law or any bull like that.

plus it wasn't all one sided, sis in law also did everything to make the relationship with each family member work and totally tried to integrate with us. I think it's the perfect set up....hope i can have that too.

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this thread seems biased!

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My mum is the sterotypical desi MIL, even now when my dad politely mentions that my brother and his wife should move out (they already have a home but it’s being renovated) she gets all sulky and starts slamming doors :frusty: She literally can’t seem to let go..

My SIL was my brother’s choice so that got my mum’s back up as well, she did all the emotional blackmail and the snooty attitude looking down on her and her family cos they aren’t well-off as well as the fact that like 99% of desi MILs she wanted a tall pale-skinned girl but got a short medium/dark-ish one (she does have the most beautiful features, cheekbones that could cut glass). My mum simply couldn’t get her head around the fact that my brother had turned down her friends’ ‘pretty’ daughters and chosen her.

Also, when she’d fall out with him she’d blame his other half for ‘changing’ him and when there are parties she makes comments about her clothes looking tacky or cheap (one of her idiot friends actually openly said SIL looked ‘cheap’ at her mehndi a few months ago).

If she’s not slagging off the clothes it’s the jewellery (‘why are u wasting money on artifical now?’ or ‘why are u wearing so much’), the hairstyle or how much money she is spending on things.. It’s neverending.. She got the traditional DIL she wanted but from every other angle she thinks the girl isn’t good enough..

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^^ awww that is so sad to hear Deeba.
Whenever my mum tries to say something about my SIL, I just tell her to talk about something else OR I try to counter it with something positive. Like the other day, SIL made khaana but it wasn't that good so I told my mom when she complained a bit that not to make a big deal out of it. You should be glad that she tried which is what counts.

To answer the original poster's question - My SIL and I get along really well. Our kids are the same age, so we get to hang out quite often and we don't have the typical issues Alhamdulillah! :) In fact most of my cousin bhabhis and Naands get along really well because we don't get into each other's business.