You’re such a brave girl 
I made first move many times :) one time it was a boy from Pakistan-it was hard because i am from poland and i didnt know how he will react and what he will say but it was worth:)
so girls dont be afraid to make first move!!!!!
LMAO!!!
crap that.. it hurts
As everyone said, there is nothing perverted about making the first move. I have never had the chance to do it but i would say, dont waste time and go tell him how you feel!!!Sure rejection hurts, but you know what??This is all part of life. As lussi said, if someone rejects you, its his loss, not yours.
PS: Do let us know how it goes!
Hint: The probability of rejection is proportional to the ratio of the sex appeal of the two parties involved. Explanation: Higher ratio means larger disparity between the two, equals rejection.
Oh it's true.
^ directly, indirectly?
directly
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whoaaaaaa—lussi is that u or someone posting from ur nik???
interesting way u put it…
u are making me rethink things now…
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well how is this rejection? rejection is when u get dumped after being with someone for years and they know u inside out. When u make the move, the guy does not know enough abt who u actually are to reject u...i mean what can u find abt a person in just couple of meetings..
also take rejection as something lacking in the person who rejected u not in urself. Its him, not u. It is his loss as he prolly lost someone who'd care for him. And ofcourse ud surely deserve someone better, who can actually appreciate u.
So keep ur chin up :)
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I think this is the most wisest thing you have said on GS. :p
However, I think people who see it as 'rejection' and get all hurt over it react this way cause they are being judged and 'rejected' on their outer appearance .... the person hasn't had a chance to get to really know them nor has their persona been given a chance. Is rejection based on appearance any less than rejection based on personality? It can be very hurtful either way. Also, how sensitive and secure a person is with their physical appearance and personality also makes a huge difference.
That being said, I think it's great if a girl is able to step up to the plate and tell a guy they fancy them. Not many women have the confidence to do this, and trust me, it requires a lot of backbone to tell a guy you like him cause of the whole fear of rejection. I guess this can be applied to guys too. At least after telling someone you like them, you know exactly where you stand and you can move on if they aren't interested. It's so much better than sitting and wondering all the time and being afraid of admitting your feelings.
ager koi girl first move practice kerna chehyee tu i am available as a test case haan rejection part kaheen aur try kerna ho ga :)
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how would u take rejection from a person you have known for awhile? cus most of the time, i doubt girls will confess to somenoe they dont know.. i think we work slightly different from guys... not a generalisation.. but just from what you've said... whereas i think girls usually wait awhile before they say or do anything...
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well how good do u know the person? i think the ultimate and real rejection is when uve been someone's fiance or husband/wife for couple of yrs and then u get dumped. Cuz by then the other person knows enough abt you and knows who u actually are and i think that rejection would be the hurting one...not by someone who even though u know for some while but u both havent been close enough to see what the other person is like...
yes guys do and should make the move early...two reasons i can think of...if the girl is desireable then the more u wait the more chances are that some other guy will u beat u to it..but more importantly, the more time u spend just hanging out with her rather than makin ur move then u run the great risk of getting into the dreaded "friend zone" of the girl...and once u get in there, it becomes very hard to get out of it..
again when u guys think of fear of rejection, think of the feeling of regret...i mean if u dont go up to the person and tell him/her abt ur feelings ud for always be thinking of "what could have been.." scenarios...and ud regret it cuz u dont know..he/she might have said yes..so this feeling of regret is pretty damning too...ive been thru both and honestlly i think this feeling of regret is much much worse...
^ vey well said lussi
i will respond properly once my head is on straight... but very good advice there
surror...whats wrong with my sig? :-/
malik..thanks man..i do what i can :)
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I didnt know that was called "bravery"........... what's wrong with that?
Rejection? Why to have so many hopes if you like someone? I mean you like someone, approach them without expectations, if they do not share your feelings, it should not be the end of the world.
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Have you ever made a first move on a guy as far as letting him know you are interested? What about rejection, how do you put that on the side to build some confidence in yourself?
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well would u even want to be with someone so shallow who’d “reject” you based on outer appearance? Prolly the girl is better off without him..and yeh self-esteem and security is very essential..cuz if a person him/herself doesnt believe that his/her apperance and personality are “good enough” then how would someone else believe it? For you to be loved you need to love yourself first :k:
yep..this whole notion of “rejection” is way too overblown..and yeh by admitting u get that monkey offa ur back..cuz ur always gonna miss 100% of the shots u dont take..so might as well try..
Yes. Most guys actually like that and appreciate that
i did n i thank God everyday i did..
expect to get rejected that way u will be prepared for the worst :D
Actually NO!
excetly what kind of move we r talking about!!!!!!!!;)