As per consensus the usual process of selecting a girl or Aproving the boy by the family of potentional match makers family at a tea party, by the elders in Desi comunities is getting out dated and generally looked down by young people.
Is there any alternate of this arrangement keeping in mind the conservative and traditional settings in Pakistan ? Any workable substitute ?
Re: Any alternate of conventional 'Rishta process'
weddings and in case of shias majalis are social gatherings were such deals r made
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Wedding maybe, but Majlis, Milaad, house warming, Bismillah parties etc. quite interesting option :k:
During wedding you mostly see people from family. These other gathering, mildely religious in nature so it is difficult to check out some girl.
The conventional rishta process could be by-passed by arranging meeting of families at some friend’s place or at some public place 
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I have always been pushing youth organizations in the community to get more active on this issue. There needs to be more youth organizations (through universities, etc) that organize socials for general purposes, volunteer activities, leadership opportunities, community outreach programs, etc. That way, you do a lot for your community and deen, and also, lots of people get to know one another thru these mediums. Islamic lectures, dars' etc should be co-ed. At our university, we would have a weekly Islamic "reflections" lecture after Friday prayer - we would get together, girls and guys, sit in a circle and have a dynamic debate/discussion on a particular topic. We each did research, or pseudo-research on the topic, came with questions etc and educational materials and just talked about a topic.
It was a great way to get into other peoples' heads. I for one, found out that I didn't want to get into ANYTHING with those guys, after I heard the crap coming out of their heads. :D I even had a crush on one of them, but then when I heard his views, I was like huh??
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facebook..orkut..msn..yahoo
my success rate is like a million times better in person.
Like face to face.
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well i was just joking you know
getting back to wht u said..haha..and ur still SINGLE?
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me ??who said I am
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Re: Any alternate of conventional 'Rishta process'
I have always been pushing youth organizations in the community to get more active on this issue. There needs to be more youth organizations (through universities, etc) that organize socials for general purposes, volunteer activities, leadership opportunities, community outreach programs, etc. That way, you do a lot for your community and deen, and also, lots of people get to know one another thru these mediums. Islamic lectures, dars' etc should be co-ed. At our university, we would have a weekly Islamic "reflections" lecture after Friday prayer - we would get together, girls and guys, sit in a circle and have a dynamic debate/discussion on a particular topic. We each did research, or pseudo-research on the topic, came with questions etc and educational materials and just talked about a topic.
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thats a grt idea ...where did u grow up ?
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^ I hope you are not being sarcastic 
it is indeed a great idea that young people take interest in religion and theology and discuss concepts :k:
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i am not being sarcastic ? why wud u think i am being sarcastic
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I need to suggest some thing too.
From PCG’s post---->
instead of discussion we should have full contact --ufc style matchs.
G vs G
B vs B
Both winners get to pick who ever they want.