This is about my husband, he’s having trouble sleeping since we moved here.
I believe it has everything to do with his job, when we were in Pakistan, he was happy with his job and enjoyed his work. Then came here to UAE for better salary, under the same organization. So the organization system is the same but he is having troubles adjusting to the nature of the job.
One main reason is he’s over loaded with work. In the beginning, when we moved here, he used to tell me that he cant sleep at night. He’s dead tired at the end of the day, but he wakes up in the middle of the night and the office scenes start rolling infront of his eyes. And he cant get back to sleep. I used to say that give it a time, you’ll adjust. But its been 1 year now and he hasnt adjusted here yet, and still having troubles with sleep. Back in Pakistan, I had to literally push him off the bed to get up and get ready for work. There we used to go to bed by 11:30 and he used to wake up at 7. Now here, he’s already up around 4 in the morning and cant get back to sleep.
Now he is getting fed up with his job and this sleep pattern. I am afraid that he’ll quit anytime now.
I just need some advice how to make him sleep well at night.
Sadaf, it sounds like there's more than just sleep issues. Are you sure he really enjoys what he's doing? Is he forcing himself to just do what he feels is expected. And is he denying his real desires until his subconsious starts bubbling up with anxiety. It's just my guess, but you won't know until you sit him down and discuss it.
As for sleep, give him a back massage, a warm bath, warm milk and turn off the t.v. Hopefully he can relax soon.
I just need some advice how to make him sleep well at night.
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On Physical Level: Saimanyc said it well ^
On Spiritual Level: ask him to recite dorood while trying to goback to sleep, It helps as shytan does not want any one to recite dorood for long.
On mental Level: Ask him to discuss his situation with some one he trust in office.
On Emotional Level: Try to start discussing with him his office related stuff., as here he dont have his buddies around to share job related mess. He may be hesitant to discuss office worries with you for the simple reason that he cares for you and doe not want you to worry about stuff he thinks you should not.
May Allah help you two find your peace happiness and prosperity. (ameen)
Saima and Rush, thanks for the advice.
I always try to discuss things relating to his job with him. What he has told me so far is that he has work of 4 people atleast on his desk. He has discussed this with his supervisor, she understands that there is a need of hiring atleast 2 people with him. But is helpless as there's a hiring freeze currently in his organization.
I have asked him to be regular in his prayers, because it really takes most of the stress away.
This is another reason, why he feels depressed and lonely that he doesnt have friends over here. YOu are right Rush that he might not discuss everything with me, but he has made a couple of friends at his office, whom he is close to because they are also going through the same situation.
What I feel is, the supervisor, and the higher athorities arent taking this situation seriously, because they know this is dubai. Aaj aik banda resign karay ga, kal idher dass aanay ko tayar hon gay.
He needs to excercise atleast half an hour everyday, at a fixed time. 45 mins is even better.
Excericse is the best stressbuster in the long run..... cardiovascular/aerobic and weights.
Get a gym membership. He will be regular about it if he is paying actual money for something. No slacking off for a few weeks and he will sleep like a baby.
11.30 is pretty late to go to bed, to get the right amount of REM sleep and function well. Try getting to bed atleast an hour earlier and mess around some... that always helps!
talk with him discuss things and help to take his stress away. im sure there’s many ways to relax him …as far as actually sleeping is concerned…i like the idea of cuddling…if he’s in ur arms, he still cant sleep?
Mr. Zgard, I dont even know you so please stop joking with me.
He's been trying for a year now, the worst part is, there's no light at the end of the tunnel. I mean, his supervisors are helpless when it comes to hiring anyone for his help/assistance. So he knows he has to deal with each and everything, even a smallest of job himself. And if he doesnt get time to look after certain things, he starts getting phone calls, even on weekends.
but I think it just takes his mind of a lot of things…
but he says that he’s okay living here, its just the job that haunts him at night.