why are you getting mad at me ? i never told him to do this. nor did i inititate contact nor did we have any contact while she was in his life. i never even knew about all this except finding out about it accidentally and even then i stayed away. i was even a little upset at him. but if he wants to do this then what is my fault ? if god is giving me this opportunity because he doesnt want me to live the way im lviing without him and unable to move on then why should why i pass it up ? hes goigng to give her a divorce anyways. he never asked my approval for htis nor did he know whtther i would agree or not. and theyre not that inncoent they still trapped him even though they knew what is going on between me and him for so long. maybe thats why this is happening ot them. i dont know but all i know is that i did nothing absoliutely nothing to bring this about so dont come and speak to me like that as if you know everything cuase you dont. people shouldnt be marrying their daughters off to guys who they know are in love with someone else anyways.
LOL why would I be mad at you? I don’t even know you. Your life choices has no effect on me. I won’t be the one paying for your choices.
Like I said earlier, you will twist the situation to justify your choices. Did the guy’s parents hold a gun to head during the nikah? If he was so in love with you…where was that love when he said qabool to someone else? I’m pretty sure his “love” for you did not stop him from having a sexual relationship with the girl he married.
But yea…I’m sure he will remain faithful to you for the rest of your life. I’m not even sure why you’re posting here asking us for advice? If you did nothing wrong and you’re so convinced that this guy is the right guy for you…then why even bother asking strangers for advice at an online forum? Go spend your life with your prince charming.
OP, the thing is that you have created several threads where you said he did this this and that to me…him and his family hurt me in this way and that way…so if you’re going to pursue marriage with him, then you’ll have to move on from past hurts. And again, you still have to see how your parents and his family will respond to you and him getting married. Keep in mind that his family did not accept you earlier and since he is planning to divorce her…there’s a possibility that his parents might blame you for being the reason for the divorce and not be open to their son marrying you. Or maybe they might agree to the rishta if they’re eager to get him settled as soon as possible. But you’re thinking of entering a family that once rejected you…so prepare yourself mentally for some potential for drama. You’ve been burned by them once before…so at least be smarter about things this time around…if you can’t be deterred.
yea you are not mad thats why ur posts are so agrgessive and distraught. you take things really personlly even ino other threads you post.
yeah well iv had history with him and his family and they were realy upset at me the things iv done in the past. this is why things are the way they are presetnly . it doesnt mean he dosent love me .. he was angry and people make mistakes. hes forgiven my mistakes in the pasts and i will too even thoguh it is hard.
as and for the sexual relationship that you are presuming that hes had . hes independent. he works. hes got lots so friends he goes out. hes a young good looking guy. he doesnt need to get married to be in a sexual realtionship.
yes his family agrees . they are helping him get the divorce. they want a divorce from her themselves. because they now value me and miss me and they have forgiven me. but i understand what you are sayign that i should be smart about it this time.
^yaar…majority of the folks here are going to try to deter you from this rishta. Since you have already made up your mind to shaadi him …then why bother creating threads on the matter and prolonging this saga with posts? Just go and do what you believe is best.
from waht iv heard he hasnt gone near her because he wasnt intersted. because he couldnt forget me. he just ddi the marriage in anger and even if he did .. i dont care . im not that shallow. and hes a guy anyways so.
and even if he has had sex with another girl when we were not together whether its her or not. you think that is going to make me stop needing him ? or wanting him?
my mom said she will go along with whatever i decide to do. and i have not spoken yet to my dad about it. thats the thing i cant get on with my life without him. whatever hes done is not as important for me as his presence in my life. i want him so bad.
It boils down to how your family will react to your decision to marry this guy. You need to tell them in confidence. Nothing anyone here says matters. You need your parents on your side, not us.
if nothing from his past bothers you at all, then why have you created 4 separate threads about the same topic, and questioning whether to be with him or not?
it is obvious you will be with him regardless of what has happened int he past, and what will happen in the future. you have defended his every move you have mentioned to us on this forum. sooooo, what’s the delay in making it official between you two?
shut him out cold, only an idiot would go back to a guy like this
he left, now has come crawling back. he didn’t care when he left, she shouldn’t care now
remember most importantly - hes probably just saying that the only reason he came back is because he ‘felt bad’, realistically it means that he cannot find another woman therefore decided to come back, if the girl goes back to him then she is an absolute fool for walking straight into his trap
