Another quintessential In-Law Question

[Sehrysh]

Re: Another quintessential In-Law Question

@sparklesnflorals

I work everyday until 5. Always have marking to do and lesson plans to make - I teach highschool biology & physics. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely adore my job and don’t mind the work. Regardless of the schedule, I always take time out for my MIL. As aforementioned, that is at least an hour everyday. My weekday tasks involve the following: making the next day’s lunch for hubby & myself, cleaning the basement, finishing pending schoolwork, praying, showering, gymming - and all of this is finally done around 11:30 - 12 AM everyday. I wake up everyday at 6 to make breakfast for my husband and myself and then leave for work at 7. I love my schedule! So no complaints there. My only concern is for my MIL to understand that I have a different lifestyle. I have accommodated and changed for her. But she refuses to change a little for me. Before this, my parents and myself had discussed my living arrangements with the family. Both families sat together and agreed that I’d be living separately. But I ended up compromising because my husband felt strongly about living with his family. I’ve had to change quite a bit to live there. I’m not your quintessential bahu - but I try! I make green tea for her in the evenings. I ask her about her day and listen to her as she talks. But she complains that I don’t talk enough and that I don’t treat her like my mother :s And she CRIES about it! Thus instigating hostile emotions in my husband.

Out of curiosity, before you got married, how did you spend time with your mum/dad and siblings and how much time did you spend with them?