Another quintessential In-Law Question

Muzna · May 22, 2013, 2:29pm

Re: Another quintessential In-Law Question

It was so enlightening to actually read some of your views on this! Thank you for the replies all

-Paheli: I’ve taken care of the house by myself for about a month when my in-laws left. If given the chance I can take complete responsibility of the house. Also, our first talk on the phone EVER after baat pakki was about me asking to live in a separate accomodation but close to this parents. He had agreed at the time Things change after. But he’s still an amazing husband alhumdulillah.

-Sweetmoi: **I end up sitting with the MIL for at least an hour everyday. Half an hour myself and another half with the hubby. I’ve timed it out like that, because I’m super anal about time management **:S But it’s not like I ignore her. I do sit with her. More than I do with my own mother (sadly enough). I just don’t like gossiping and backbiting. So I’m not always responsive when she comments about my friend getting fat or whether my cousin is pregnant, etc; I usually just brush these things off. Also, I have a super hard time forcing myself to chat since by nature I’m a quiet person.

I don’t think its fair to blame someone for “apnapan” if they are quiet :S .. Really?

the bolded part speaks volumes …unless you would care to rephrase it.
being “anal” about time is directly related to the lack of “apna pan”.
if someone had “scheduled” time to sit with me for an hour, 1/2 by themselves and 1/2 with hubby, then I would feel like more of a burden/chore on them than anything else.

perhaps the issue isn’t time at all…