Therein lies the crux of the issue......Realization for some comes too late and others not at all.
I'm not trying to sound pessimistic but I find it hard to understand that such a simple gameplan that one would think is a given , yet eludes so many !
U'd think it was understood that marriage is about being on the same team and working towards a mutual goal ....
I dont know if the realization is not there or ability to manage expectations is not there.
how many people ..guys or girls can tell an elder who wants to talk about their spouse to let it be and for let someone manage his/her own life.
and elders have to be more sensitive and understanding, I salute my mum for not falling for the typical stuff from aunty jis to gossip. not only would my mum not entertain any sort of leading questions about my married life or about my wife, but would shut someone up if they were getting too much...which was amazing since my mum is a very non confrontational type of person.
yeah the need to vent is there sometimes, but be careful who u vent to, and what you say, u dont vent to enemies but friends, so how does it get out? catch my drift there..whats the saying wise enemies are better than foolish friends