Re: Another Dilemma.
I can asure you with sister like you she cant make a wrong decision....and you'll be there for her. i strongly feel that this guy is not commited at all. When he broke up wid your sister and got engaged. After engagement if he wanted to work things out with his fiance he could but he also broke up with his ex-fiance too. Before engagement if he wanted to, he could've atleast tried once to talk to your sister to tell her that his parents want him to get engage and if she can forgive him and they can get back together....but he didnt bother telling ur sister. If he was committed in the first place he could've told his family about her n had a formal engagement or something, just to show that its official now. BUT no what he actually did was used your sister and left when his family found the gal
I feel he got engaged when he was out of touch for a month and couldnt give any reasons for his absence....if they were considering marriage doesnt he know you shouldnt hide anythings from eachother as this can only cause misunderstandings. She should've told him to go find an excuze for ur absence and thn come to me otherwise dont bother
My advice is (if possible) to forward everyonez replies to ur sister and she can read this herself....sometimes when a person reads instead of listens it really helps them to understand what everyone is trying to say. It will also help her make the right decision.
Its not the time she can make a mistake and realize it she can undo it. Its a lifetime decision, she dont want to end up with a person who was never concerned about her feelings, she should be very carefull and if she still has doubts about her decision, she should perform istekara about him. insallah Allah will clearly tell her what this guy's intentions are and wether or not is he a good match for her.
I had a proposal and my mom did istekara, it seemed like a perfect proposal. The guy was good luking, finanacialy strong, family was nice and everything which a person looks in a proposal was there.....but after doing istekara mom said no. Later he got married to this other girl who is a good friend of mine, after coming here and getting his PR card he divorced her.......