Annoying B**** in the office

[Beeba123]

[quote=““third string””]
Go to HR. Don’t engage her but report her to HR and tell them how her bullying affects your work and productivity.
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The problem with this is our office is TINY. We have total 25 people in the office (just 2 rooms) and HR is externally sourced. So HR isn’t even here to see/do anything, and doesn’t know anyone very well either. The other option would be to talk to my manager (who is her number one supporter because all she sees if the good side/sucking up) or my other manager (who isn’t her number one support, but also only sees the good/isn’t the type to appreciate office drama). Also, I have only been here a couple of months so that adds to the awkwardness of the situation.

[Beeba123]

@""decentGuy""

You mentioned she is your senior and is also a good friend of your manager. That could develop into a tough situation. She may create circumstances where you will not be able to perform and hence get fired for incompetence. So if you feel heading in that direction, then immediately talk with the supervisor of the manager or someone further up the hierarchy. Explain the situation to the big boss with exact dates/times and names of witnesses. But if you are able to perform your duties without getting bothered too much, then no need to take such a drastic step as this could seriously backfire.

I had a similar situation in a new job. The senior guy there was also a trusted lieutenant of my manager and hated me from the very day of the interview and didn?t hide his feelings very well. I later found out that he had long pushed for someone else to be hired in that position. So he had to prove that I was the wrong choice all along. As soon as I started, the senior guy volunteered to become my mentor. Then he started giving me vague and misleading guidance with crazy deadlines. I was on visa so I was in no position to quit. I was spinning wheels and achieving nothing. Meanwhile, he kept telling the manager how I was not taking the job seriously, etc. Soon enough I realized that if I wasted any more time, no one will believe me and say Im finding excuses for not making adequate progress. Then I complained to the big boss` with dates/times/names of witnesses. It was a double-edged sword but that was my only chance to save my job. And it worked ! I got another mentor and things improved dramatically.

Oh wow, I’m sorry you had to go through that! I don’t think she would go that far, but I am very afraid she will try her best to outshine me or take away any possible big responsibilities from me. I feel like she doesn’t know if she wants to befriend me, or hate me most of the time. She is so odd. And I recently spoke to another girl, who is also Pakistani (the problem girl is also Pakistani), who also went through the same thing with her. So I don’t know if it is just a weird girl-on-girl-Pakistani-to-Pakistani-jealously thing. Do you know what I mean?

[PunjaBee]

O.. just read the part that she’s also Pakistani.

[Beeba123]

Hey - a few people asked me for an update and I did quit. Started my PhD and got a new job too…so I am much happier now. Thank you to everyone who encouraged me to just go for it!