anniversary celebrations.and mil

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So u want to celebrate ur wedding anniversary ur husband and u alone.a dinner maybe
And how do u tell.ur in laws.this? Especially when they feel.thy should.all.come along. Mentioned to mil who said yeh we all should go.she said same.to husband.when.he told.her
So she hasn’t registered at all that’s.we only wana go alone

So.how do you tell them? Clearly but.nicely
Or should I let it go and be happy she wants to all.go
And.me.and.hubs go another time?

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Re: anniversary celebrations.and mil

just tell them "tibiyat kharab hai,jane naal doctor no wahaan chali waan "

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I'll welcome them and go with mil/family if they want to be a part of our special day. I can go alone with husband a day earlier to celebrate mehndi anniversary or a day later for walima anniversary. Afterall they were a part of the "wedding" too so they shouldn't be ignored when "wedding" anniversaries are celebrated. Big deal ?

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go with them all.

then the next day go again and mentione dyou are doing another aniversary dinner.

i promise no one will offer to come with you on the second dinner.

this way you get two nice celebrations on your big day.

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Go with your MIL. Bring a hand sanitizer with you. Use it whenever you have any physical contact with her.

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This is a good idea.. but not sure about the promise :D

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This. I know its annoying but in the long run, this is a small sacrifice. Besides, the last thing you want is your husband to be annoyed/hurt or whatever b/c MIL is unhappy/complaining that she's not wanted at this dinner. Keep hubby relaxed on that day, and do not give MIL any reason to complain.

Yep. This is exactly what I'd recommend. A week or so after the anniversary, pick a random night and simply have your husband tell MIL that you two are going out to eat. Don't make it seem like anything special and don't even mention words like "anniversary" or "celebration". Make it seem like a simple/boring dinner.

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^ What she said

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Take them along, maybe they will give gifts

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I dunno man, I know some people who think ANY kind of going out with husband is a special occasion and hardly simpleor antyhing.

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ahah..just boosting her up for the two dates :)

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why did u have to tell ur MIL?

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First of all- YOU shouldn't say anything. If hubby isn't happy with it, let HIM say something. If they do come along, just plan another night for the two of you separately.

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And don't announce the purpose, just say we will be out for xyz time. (Let your hubby do the talking)

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go with them all and go with your husband a day in advance so your first celebration would be with your husband only.

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Give her laxatives at lunch time. She will not join you for dinner.

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The laxatives at lunch - they be given the day after dinner?

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For everyone suggesting that go out a second time.......again, maybe it's normal for most couples but what if mr nadz's is the type to not go out so often and would never agree to go out a second time so soon?

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Since Nadz herself wrote that going out a 2nd time is an option (indicated by the last line in her original post), that leads me to believe that Mr. Nadz is the type of person who will agree to go out a second time. As for the specific timeline, the couple can figure out what works best for them....especially given that they have 2 small children and live with an overbearing MIL.

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U know what Nadz? I feel that showing flexibility in welcoming your in-laws to join you and husband for your anniversary dinner......and for you to be happy and cheerful throughout the outing.......(even if mil behaves poorly).........your husband will appreciate your efforts and that alone could bring you and him even closer than before. So....even if you were not to do a 2nd outing, the impact of the first outing may be strong enough. But go ahead n do a 2nd dinner if you know he'll be willing. Happy Anniversary and may you have many more.