For people who are in relationships… how does your life change as time goes on?
Do you make conscience decisions to better your relationships, lessen the arguments and strengthen the understanding and communication? Or is this something that just gets shoved with all other issues in ones life?
Reason for the question…
I just had an awesome lunch date with the hubz… and i was thinking, this time last year, we’d prob meet for lunch to argue about something we couldnt argue about infront of the bachi… talk about it and then head back to work with an even bigger headache.
This year, its different… we meet cus we miss each others company and it’s nice to just hang out with each other in a cosy little cafe… like we once would have prior to being married.
hmmmm, well ive been married a year. some things in the beginning were hard, still are, but for me its still the beginning, ive seen marriages get better over time,as in years. i think it can takes years, my aunt has issues in the beginning with hers, now 12 years on, they are better, my cousin as well, 6 years on, things are different.
ive seen husbands/wives insult their other halves in front of people, even as a joke, it doesnt look good, thankfully my husband doesnt do this, my husband did want me to cover my head, also he wants me to not wear tight fitting clothes, thats all he really wanted from me. i refused to cvoer my head, and we had arguments about it. he doesnt ask anymore, think he understood in the end that he cant force me. and there have been other small issues which cause friction, however with time, we now dissolve our arguments within minutes, or maybe hlaf hour...before it would be daysssssssssssssssss, or min hoursssss.
Things definitely get better, IF you communicate with each other... there are a lot of other factors involved too. For me, personally, things have improved.
Ups and Downs come in healthy marriage just like in healthy heartbeat. Life goes on just because of these ups and downs...
with that I am signing off to demand KALEY-CHOOLEY from my wife on Iftar today and another down is gonna come now in my married life with her refusing and me insisting..... :)