something very disturbing and at times, what most people are all guilty of - being either really and rightfully angry or sometimes some people are just so use to saying curses and wishing bad on others, that without that they cant converse.
how one can minimize and better yet, stop and prevent ownself and others from cursing and wishing bad on other people?
- everytime one gets angry - perhaps say something neutral like: “oh God” or “how can i change this?”
- try to rationalize your own anger by thiking will my cursing in absence of the person who is a target of my anger, really getting hurt? likely not.
- focus on your own health. when you get angry and curse or wish bad on others, ethically and spiritually it takes a heavy toll on your health. so avoid it.
- dont curse ever infront of children.
- when someone else is cursing, dont keep quite. very carefully, tell that person, it is not right and it won’t help her/his situation.
- pray when you feel that your anger is uncontrollable,
- if really essential to indicate your anger, remain silent and speak slowly, remnding the target person, what her/his fault is and how unfair that person is, then leave.
- in writing, send a note to that person that describes the same, but does not have any curse, bad wish on that person nor any threat.
- take a deep breath and drink some chilled water to cool down.
- leave the place of confrontation in a situation with someone who is ignorant or difficult to speak to because that person is not listening at all, lest getting angry with that person push you over the limit and you begin cursing.
share your own ways of avoiding curses and bad wishes.