So I said to my hubby that you don't love me after just a silly quarrel, and he took it so seriously. Like he is behaving very cold and rude and not talking to me since past 2 days. Went to my MIL place after his work and returned back after midnight because he is so angry that he doesn't want to remain in the house with me for long period. All he said is that since I blame him that he doesn't love me it really hurt him and now the relationship would just be like the one where there is no love.
I just want to know that is saying to your husband that he doesn't love you is really taken so badly by the husbands and made them angry with you?
What should I do in this situation.
Nope, never!
Sometimes a reaction can be based on cumulative conflicts and not a single conflict. Only you would know if you have these kinds of arguments a lot or if you make these kinds of emotional comments a lot. If it happens a lot, then maybe husband tang aa gaya ho.
When you accused him of not loving you, it’s actually a manipulative thing to say if you think about it. Imagine a toddler telling a parent that You don’t love me because they didn’t get the toy or the candy. Love is not based upon the condition that 2 people have to agree all the time, although that would be nice.
If this is the first time you’ve done this, then his reaction is extreme. If you do this kind of thing a lot, then he could be feeling mentally exhausted. Maybe in his mind he believes that there are many examples and evidences that prove his love to you and it frustrates him that you don’t acknowledge his efforts and have so easily resorted to this negative conclusion. Maybe he thinks k aur main kitna karoon. Or he is put off because he finds it manipulative and tiring.
You’re not going to get everything that you want all the time. You and your husband will not always agree on ever matter. But if you appreciate him more often for the things that he does do for you, it could make him more flexible.
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Some people are overly emotional. Under normal circumstances, they can tolerate the biggest thing, but sometimes even a small thing can turn them off. May be your husband is one of them. Although its creepy behaviour but mostly such people are loyal.
Hmmmm something is not adding up here. This is most definitely not a sane reaction, either he has some type of guilty conscious or he is a man child.
Maybe you said something else along those line which is hurtful
sometimes some other thing which one says and find "not hurtful" can be taken differently by others
or is piled up emotion which now is fed up
give him some space and time
dont ask again till open up and normal
Either her husband is really that immature. OR, we don't have all the details. We don't know their pattern of arguments, we don't know if she's been making such remarks often. There's so much history we don't know about.
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Either her husband is really that immature. OR, we don’t have all the details. We don’t know their pattern of arguments, we don’t know if she’s been making such remarks often. There’s so much history we don’t know about.
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There is no justification for emotional abuse. I had million times worse and I did not engage in this emotional abuse ever. He needs to pull his big boys pants up and not go hide in mommy’s room.
My wife one did and does the withholding a lot, could be underdeveloped minds
Sug G!..As a husband..i can tell ya..there is got to be more, which is why he is acting like that. Personally speaking..i don't like sarcasm or nakhray baazi too much. I can understand..ya said "you don't love me" because you care about him.
But sometimes as a man..we start to think demagh mein, "Aurr kyaa karrooon es kay liyee ke khush rahay". as TLS said in one of her post...try appreciating him. Ya'll see the result will speak for themselves!
Lots of wishes and prayers for ya both!!
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