Re: Angry and Helpless
dimagh hota to na, it is a tricky situation. it relies on ur ability to say things truthfully. the worst manner in which one can hurt someone is by not recognizing someone's feelings. anger and helplessness of ur own are only seen by u as that, but to other they may be aggression and finding as well as using scapegoats and that is debilitating in life. helplessness is an alibi when it is clearly in your hands to take control of situations and make them better. u don't have to have a pretext for doing what you know is the right thing to do. it's correctness is self evident. recognizing silence is fine as it talks nothing. not trusting someone after s/he has mistrusted urself, is an understandable thing to do. practicing silence to lead the other person astray is an ever bigger blunder. best way to get rid of another person's or one's mistrust is to face each other. not all people can do that as they are hollow and shallow unless they prove themselves otherwise. and not all of those who attempt to prove themselves may find what they were looking for, or even hoping to gain, since as more time goes on, one will feel more embarrassed and low in one self. hope this helps. best way: neither become helpless nor be angry. be true to your own self with out being miserable or selfish. that will gain inner peace and a sense of not having hurt anyone - a feeling that is priceless and no one can steal it, not even the person who hurt you terribly. u have to indicate and the other person ideally must understand why u meant something that they did not value. best, dushwari
Dushwari... you stay true to your name! It's a dushwari to read this when I am really pissed off -let alone understanding it, lol. I do like what you said but what if you can't even communicate with that person? Then what? It's not even about the way you say it, I am way past that stage in my relationship with that person where what you say and how you say it matters.