I’ve heard a lot about the terms anger management and stress management..but I don’t know what are the techniques …how best to tame the angry you…what would be the ideal way to deal with stress and especially anger…in my case stress almost always leads to anger and unfortunately i’m losing control over my anger .
As a mother of 4 young kids…I NEED to learn to control my anger…would appreciate any help.
Thank you!
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The first step to managing stress is to realise that you suffer from it. Some people can take greater pressure before they snap and others less. Some stress is beneficial. When you feel that you might not be able to cope with a situation the stress reaction is triggered that creates the extra energy needed to meet the demanding situation.
Stress is also destructive it saps your energy and distorts your perspective in life. The first step is to increase your confidence in your ability to deal with the situation. You should feel that you are in control of the situation. Don't fret about things that are not in your control. You need to change the way that you see and deal with the situation and be able to step back from it.
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I NEED to learn this too :hinna:
I heard there are classes for this too 
you might think of taking them 
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Try practicing meditating for 2 hours in ur room turn off lights and ask Allah for strength
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Four young kids = lots and lots of stress.
It would stress anyone out.
I'm sorry I dont have anyting to say about anger management, but what I do suggest is having an outlet.
You really need to take some time out for yourself, the best idea would be to get a gym membership, or go to your local YMCA and work it out for atleast an hour a couple of days a week.
You'll get some time by yourself, and you'll physically work your stress off.
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Read hadith regarding anger
Pray
Take time out to exercise and meditate
Put some music on
Drink some water.......sit/lie down for a while
Kids can be annoying........but sometimes reminding yourself of what you used to be like at their age can help calm you down a bit. Maybe put a movie or have some activities set for them. Another thing that can help is to set a routine for your kids. When kids do things off schedule, it can become hectic. So......explain to them....."Quietly do your homework around a certain time......then do this.........then do this, etc etc."
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pray to allah for patience.
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Thank you for responding.:)
As for Ahadith, I highly value this treasure but sadly enough I can't seem to think of anything good when I am angry....n I'm getting angry too often now.:-(
My kids are Alhamdulillah very nice as compared to many kids out there....I know they can be fussy at times (kids are kids, u know) but 90% of times they are cooperative. to me it seems that ilack time management perhaps....and when things don't get accomplished at a certain time...i lose patience. like if we have to leave for school at 7: 15....my nerves would be stretched at 7:10....coz i know a 2 minutes difference will make us get stuck in traffic...and we'd be late for school...
This was just one example...I know there are 1001 things to do in 24 hrs....n my day never stretches beyond those 24 hrs to acommodate everything....some of you advised me to relax....hehe....for as long as i can remember...i have never eaten a single meal with total relaxation...theres always one thing or the other...
Perhaps i need a miracle to change me from a grumpy-tantrum throwing maa jee to a calm and patient one
never mind
^That does not sound healthy!
You should make a timetable, not necessarily on paper, but in mind. Make a timetable where you set extra 5-10 mins to each thing. This way you will always be done ahead of time and there will be less of a stress. Plus time for all the unseen get-in-ways.
You mentioned the morning stress, maybe you should get up a bit earlier? Maybe pack the kids bag in night, make their lunches and put their clothes out as well? If your kids are old enough, let them do these things the night before. This way they will get trained and future will be good too. Its a really good thing to learn your kids to do their things on their own. Mummy doesnt need to do EVERYTHING ..
And you dont HAVE to do EVERYTHING! .. Priorities.. What has to be done? What can wait till tomorrow?