How many of you have trouble with it? How many folks tend to throw stuff, break things and kick around when angry?
Secondly those of you who are mostly in control of yourself in terms of not throwing tantrums what do you think of people who lash out in physical manner? Do you completely distance yourself from such people or excuse their weakness and get on with it?
I personally can’t stand people who yell or break stuff, banging doors i can manage but anymore than that appears abusive to me.And i dont think sorry cuts it either so yeah i distance myself from people who cannot behave when angry.
Then there is another group that doesnot get physical but says the nastiest of things. I havent come across many of such people but have observed some people doing this to others. Since i dont know the details i cannot be a judge how much of it was venting and how much was aimed for deliberate hurt. But i think it can put distances that sometimes cannot be bridged later on.
Well personally I have this problem but in my head ..never physical ..i get angry cos of situations ..such as where you confide in someone but then they block you out of life or things and you feel that you are not being made aware of things which are going on around you .. but the worse thing about me is that ...i keep my temper inside me unless i feel i can trust someone and talk to.. otherwise it just keeps eating my inside till it somehow goes away ...
but personal experience is that of my bro ..he has this but its only when you provoke him.. but hes changed alot now although he still has it in him . reason for changing is that hes Become Haafiz Alhamdo lillah and he Reads his Prayers and Cos we have a mosque of hour own so he also does jamaat sometimes.. and hes realised that he must change to portray a Good message to those who follow him in prayer.
Personal thought is that i think no one on purpose bes angry ..its only the circumstances which lead a person to it..and i know a person i which they are angry or mood off due to circumstances and issues which happen around them.
Well personally I have this problem but in my head ..never physical ..i get angry cos of situations ..such as where you confide in someone but then they block you out of life or things and you feel that you are not being made aware of things which are going on around you .. but the worse thing about me is that ...i keep my temper inside me unless i feel i can trust someone and talk to.. otherwise it just keeps eating my inside till it somehow goes away ...
Personal thought is that i think no one on purpose bes angry ..its only the circumstances which lead a person to it..and i know a person i which they are angry or mood off due to circumstances and issues which happen around them.
how does it just go away? i've heard in pyscho babble that anger when festered results in outburst? so i am curious how do you let it out?
yeah well i am not talking about the justified or unjustified anger rather the manifestation of anger on the whole. People get angry sometimes with a darn good reason but how you show it is crucial. In other words how much one is incharge of oneself and how to deal with some one who clearly isn't?
Then there is another group that doesnot get physical but says the nastiest of things. I havent come across many of such people but have observed some people doing this to others. Since i dont know the details i cannot be a judge how much of it was venting and how much was aimed for deliberate hurt. But i think it can put distances that sometimes cannot be bridged later on.
When it's a case of a verbal outburst, I feel it only really hurts or makes a difference when it comes from someone you have placed your trust in, whom you have confided in, and who - in that moment - chooses to hit below the belt. It's so hard to convince yourself later that it was just said childishly in the heat of the moment, none of it was meant. but yeah, it does plant in seeds of doubt, and any sort of mistrust or doubt is what leaves the relationship bereft of what it was before.
How I'd deal with someone who has an aggressive temper depends on who they are.
oh god! i have this realllyyyy bad temper, and im not exactly a patient person either yes yes patience is a virtue…but ive learnt to control my anger and keep calm
varna before…i would swear 24/7 punch the walls and even cry out my anger…but finally, ive learnt to control it
ooo look, another chance to talk about me. Well, there are only two people in the world who induce me to psycho-crazy. Other than that I'm pretty chilled out. I do get passive aggressive re: stony silences. But as tis life, one gets over it.
how does it just go away? i've heard in pyscho babble that anger when festered results in outburst? so i am curious how do you let it out?
yeah well i am not talking about the justified or unjustified anger rather the manifestation of anger on the whole. People get angry sometimes with a darn good reason but how you show it is crucial. In other words how much one is incharge of oneself and how to deal with some one who clearly isn't?
well the main thing how i let it out is that i talk to those who i love and trust ..and in return i am calm and they advice me for the best .. so when am advised that keeping anger inside isnt really good and you ll destroy your self mentally and emotionally .. So cos its the people i love that give me advice so that makes me really happy cos they wudnt be giving bad advice .. and thas how it goes away ..
or .. i just deal with it myself by not thinking about the actions / circumstances which make me angry ........:)
i am not a calm person
ofcorse your a calm person ..................... :D
YES I AM ANGRY TODAY. i NEED SOME MOFO SLEEP AND KEEP GETTING WOKEN UP AFTER THREE HOURS. THREE HOURS OF SLEEP A DAY SINCE THURSDAY. ITS TUESDAY TODAY. I NEVER GET BAGS UNDER MY EYES. AND ASIDE FROM MY GENERAL VANITY... THAT ONE PERSON WHO CAN INDUCE ME TO SUICIDAL MANIA IS NOW SLEEPING. **SLEEEEEEEEPING!!!!! **ITS INSULT TO MY INJURYYYYYYYY.
Ive got quite a short fuse and lose my rag quickly...i totally speak my mind to whoeva it is thats annoyed me...but then i do get over it equally as quickly as well. Hubz is amazingly calm so he calms me down a lot of the time.
yes yes patience is a virtue…but ive learnt to control my anger and keep calm