One of my besties from gradeschool had a nightmare of a childhood. Every thing bad that could ever happen to someone happened to her. As a result she was emotionally very needy and not always a good judge of character. She hooked up with a guy in highshool and they got married in college. None of her friends liked her boyfriend/eventually husband. She was too good for him and he certainly didn’t give the respect or consideration she deserved. Each of us, in our own way voiced our objections to the guy - told her why we didn’t thnk it was going to work out. We all told her to date other guys and consider her other options. But she was in love (or maybe in love with love) and couldn’t be convinced. So all of her friends learned to tolerate him even though we suspected the relationship might have a bad end.
They got married, had three kids. Each of their kids was a girl - and after every baby - he would say let’s have another - next time, it’ll be a boy.
Fast forward many years, and to make a long story short, he left her, left the kids, was a gambling addict who ended up bankrupting them. She is now a 31 year old divorcee mother of three.
As her friend, all I can do is continue to be her friend and to see her through her ups and downs. I couldn’t make her choices for her when she was 5, 15 or 25 - so I’m not going to start now.