An interesting dilemma

[Muslim_Met_Fan]

Re: An interesting dilemma

She's cheating on him.

[PakistaniAbroad]

Re: An interesting dilemma

@CM

And PA you should learn the meaning of friendship.

don't kid yourself...this is not friendship.. you're trying to make decisions for him, and taking him for granted in all of this.. his relationship, his problem.. HIS decision.. as i said.. stop trying to be paddy's daddy and start giving him some respect.

[Mehnaz]

Re: An interesting dilemma

He should have a heart to heart with her. If you influence him to break up with her without first talking to her about it, then he may end up resenting you guys. He needs to come to that decision himself. If anything, you should encourage him to talk directly with her and confront her about her behaviour. Let him come to the decision on his own.

[Muzna]

Re: An interesting dilemma

I agree with Mehnaz.
Looking out for someone is one thing.....but acting on their behalf, or steering them into a decision that you believe is the right thing for them, is wrong and will lead to further consequences that neither one of you will enjoy.

He asked for your input....give it to him. Be blunt.
Then offer him a couple of scenarios on how you can help and let him call the shots.

[notebook]

Re: An interesting dilemma

Mayko Lagta hai GF paddy ko soooteeeyaaa bana rei hai

[Femme_Fatale]

Re: An interesting dilemma

I think paddy needs counselling on how to muster up courage, stand up for himself and be a man. Its not like he is unaware of the situation, he is just not ready to confront it and others cannot look out for him all his life.

[shweetdreamz]

Re: An interesting dilemma

@MehnazQ

He should have a heart to heart with her. If you influence him to break up with her without first talking to her about it, then he may end up resenting you guys. He needs to come to that decision himself. If anything, you should encourage him to talk directly with her and confront her about her behaviour. Let him come to the decision on his own.

i agree with mehnaz

[CM]

Re: An interesting dilemma

I have a question where did it say i was influencing him? Welcome to assuming stuff do your own coloured perception. I would ask you all gurus to answer one simple question:

Where was it stated that I or any of us were making the decision for him or that we were forcing him to agree to what we wanted? What makes you assume that?

[Mehnaz]

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@CM

Being the busybodies we are we quickly made sure everybody we know would inform us if anybody saw those two hanging out. We are over protective of paddy and we got some very very protective women in our social group.

Personally I feel like telling paddy to kick her to the curb. My other friends say lets wait and see and a few say she is not doing anything wrong. I find it extremely odd she will never tell paddy what she is doing or changes the subject when the other guy is mentioned.

Views?

You say here you are busybodies ... busybody implies a person who interferes and meddles in somebody else's life.

Perhaps you aren't interferring yet, but just keeping an eye on the situation. In any case, it's great that you are looking out for your friend. :)

Personally, you feel like telling paddy to kick her to the curb. Your other friends tell you to wait and see ....

If you go with your personal feelings of telling him to kick her to the curb, you will be influencing him. All many of us are saying is don't influence him with your personal feelings on the issue. You want to protect him, that is obvious, but there is only so much you can do without crossing the line and becoming a full fledged busybody.

[Mal1k]

Re: An interesting dilemma

Start an affair, if she is a hottt lebanese babe that paddy saab had...:D if she is a lebanese that is...:p

Dude on a serious note, Ur problem is a lot similar to something that has been happening in our circle as well. Sad thing is that da guy just isnt listening. Too blind perhaps. Love does make a person blind. Ur friend, indonesian, & as far as I have knowledge, he will just humbly accept da gurls false xcuses & keep on going like this. Probably da gal is interested in his money, if padda saab is rich, else, she is just toying around.