Re: American Muslim talking about marriage with Pakistani Muslim
why u marry a pakistani man?/
look around the forum........paki women don't want to marry paki man......why do u??
Re: American Muslim talking about marriage with Pakistani Muslim
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Re: American Muslim talking about marriage with Pakistani Muslim
Hello
I recently met a guy that is from Pakistan but went to undergrad/grad school in the US and has been here for over 12 years now. I am religious and so I do not think "dating" before marriage is okay. If you are going to talk to a man (we are both in our later 20's) it is for a more than friend purpose that will lead to marriage. We have discussed marriage and he said he could see himself marrying me in a year or so... but we are still figuring all of this out. His parents now know about me. He is well educated, has a great job and we have the same beliefs in every area. His company is working on his green card right now, so I do not believe that there is an underlying reason for him wanting to be with me. Our differences lie in our cultural backgrounds - I was born and raised in America. I am Arab-Muslim but he says I am more white than anything haha. I want to know if the cultural/family issues will be a big deal? He says that his parents will respect his decision so long as I am Muslim and willing to learn some of the cultural things that he enjoys. I am willing to do this as I do believe I might be in love with him. He is also going back to Pakistan for possibly a few months soon, and had we not met he knows that his parents wanted him to meet someone to marry while he is there. Should I be worried that he might meet someone anyway and get married while he is away?
I would really love some feedback or insight into the cultural traditions/background that might effect the relationship. Are there any other american pakistani couple experiences out there?
Best,
E
Salam sister
I have seen many marriages between people of different background, some of them successful, other not so successful. But the success of a marriage depends more on husband and wife rather than their cultural backgrounds. You seem to understand him enough if you are thinking of marrying him but one thing I would do as a minimum is making sure you get both of your parents' blessing for this marriage. Get them to meet if possible. If they agree then it should be fine. From there on you can build on your relationship and may Allah help you. You said you are religions so have you considered doing an Istikhara? Ask Allah for his mercy and you will never be disappointed InshaAllah.
Regards
PS. Ignore the rubbish comments given by some. This is an open forum so you are likely to get all sorts on here.
Re: American Muslim talking about marriage with Pakistani Muslim
why u marry a pakistani man?/
look around the forum........paki women don't want to marry paki man......why do u??
LOL
very funny sir xD