American Muslim talking about marriage with Pakistani Muslim

[Paheli00]

Re: American Muslim talking about marriage with Pakistani Muslim

@esenabel

1. We are not engaged, but the purpose of our getting to know one another is for marriage. I do not consider myself engaged, no. We do not live in the same states currently, and if you see my answers to the next questions that must come before we are engaged.

2. No I have no introduced him to my parents. This will happen around the same time that I meet his… which leads me to →

3. A timeline for me to meet his parents would be in the coming 2 - 3 months. I will meet his cousins next time I travel to see him in the state he lives in. Either I would have to travel overseas or his parents would need to come here in order for us to meet. He and I have discussed my going to Pakistan, though I would prefer to meet them in the US.

Knowing desi guys…UNTIL you meet his parents and actually hear/see them approve of you and treat you as a potential DIL, do not assume that he will marry you. And yes, since he has not made any formal committments to you in any shape or form, unfortunately the possibility of him agreeing to marry another woman in Pakistan exists.

** On a side note: I may have misunderstood this but you wrote in the original post that he’s going to Pakistan for possibly the next few months (ie. so he doesn’t know how long he will be there? He doesn’t have a return ticket booked?). And yet you’re saying that there’s plans of you meeting his parents in the next 2-3 months…and there’s a chance his parents may travel to U.S. (according to him). Heck you can’t even meet his cousins until he gets back from Pakistan right? And according to the original post, that’s potentially in the next few months? So would this be before or after you meet the parents?

Going strictly by what I’m reading…this doesn’t make sense to me. There seems to be too many variables floating in the air and not enough concrete decisions. Besides, the desis I know who travel to the U.S. generally plans it months in advance (ie. if his parents were planning on travelling here within the next 2-3 months…they’d already know that for sure by now). I dunno…but I find this part a bit worrying.

Either way…remember he has made absolurely no formal committments to you. For your own sake, do not get your hopes up or make any marriage plans UNTIL you meet his parents.