He obviously loves you as he is telling the truth...and no you are not overreacting...holding hands etc is CROSSING THE LINE!!
I bet shes one of these tarty chicks too who thinks she can get any man she likes!! (hate those types) such slappers!! lol
He needs to change all his telephone numbers....or maybe give him a taste of his own medicine....start hanging out with guys...hold their hands etc....see how he likes it LOL
Yup, if a girl is falling for my guy, that would mean that my guy is well-liked by other people. So yeah, I would like that. I would also feel sorry for her, coz if my guy isn't going for her, it would hurt her.
That is nowhere near the scenario the OP put forth. She wouldnt have bothered opening a thread with such great concern if that were the case. She clearly said the guy's answering her calls, talking to her late night, letting her flirt, etc.
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I agree with Spock's initial comment. The same would apply for a girl too.
If you really respect and love somebody, and they have a genuine conern, the other person should respect that.
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Sounds like the main storyline from Geo Tv's "Buri Aurat". Though I would agree. That lady sounds she likes him way too much for just a friend. You are not overreacting.
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I agree with gulab Jamun. He's just boosting your ego.
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Er his ego I mean
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Right time for another lesson of Guys 101.
First question do you trust him? If you do, then you have nothing to worry about.
Second issue that of the wench herself. From what you have provided as information from a single view point in a vacuum, we can only assume she is jealous. But the question is did she hold his hand in front of you? Or did you just hear about it and more importantly if you heard about it do trust the source?
Lastly he stopped talking to her after you got upset. You know what that means? He places you of more importance than that of the other girl. He broke it off because you were not happy.
Lastly about the home phone number. That is a typical guy thing to do. Some girls we have no problem calling us at home or where we live because they are not of value to us. There are some girls in my social group of friends who speak to my mom whenever they want. There are others who are specifically stuck to my cell phone or e-mail and that is all.
In the case of multiple guys at his house, he wants to keep his conversation with you private. Considering what guys say about girls in an all guy house, trust me he does it because he values your relationship.
And lastly and most importantly insecurity and clinginess are great things that break up a relationship.
In your specific case you tell the guy sure why don't we go together. I haven't seen her in ages as well and would like to see her.
Plus you have told him you think she has the hots for him right? That alone is enough to put him on the backfoot if you are there.
spoko… your guy is being honest with you, give him some credit. He stopped talking to her, then resumed the talking after a long time and told you. He and this girl have probably been friends for years. With time, they’ll eventually grow apart when she realizes he’s moving things forward with you. I’ve seen this happen in friends. I had a friend who dated his best friend for several years. His best friend was present in his future relationships too and often got in the way. Now, he’s engaged and the best friend isn’t really close to him anymore. So spock is kinda right that the guy should respect you and break all ties with this girl, but I’ve noticed that it takes time for some people. Some guys are also hypocritical, they’ll tell the girl to not talk to her male friends but forget that they should do the same with their female friends.
The landline number… he lives with friends, so that phone is shared. Did he give this girl his cell phone number? Most people talk on cell phones. If he didn’t, he wants the cell phone just for you… to talk to you and text you. Whereas with the landline, he can only talk to the friend if he’s at home and he can’t text her with it.
Perhaps he’s telling you about the friend to see your reaction… make you jealous and make himself feel like some hotshot 
The thing I find scary in all of this is that the guy is in a different country… that can complicate things more. Did the friend move to another continent to be with him?
No you are not overreacting. This isnt a one time issue...its been going on for some time.
I asked him why he had given his 'friend' the landline number and not me, and his reply to me was, 'us waqt u were different' (his exact words). Us waqt, we were still in a relationship, and the only difference is that now we are taking that same relationship to the next level.
He didnt give the landline # to you when you guys were in some sort of relationship but he gave it to a "friend". Was friendship was more important to him than the relationship?
Guys can clearly & easily avoid girls if they really want to...which I think is not the case here. He is keeping two relationships at a time. Do you think he can be trusted??
There is no "just friendship" thing between a guy & girl where the girl moves away permanently to another continent for the guy.
If a man loves his woman, he'll make sure he cuts off connections to other women, especially the ones that bother his gal. You are not asking for too much, he should comply and break off any contact with her.
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Right time for another lesson of Guys 101.
First question do you trust him? If you do, then you have nothing to worry about.
Second issue that of the wench herself. From what you have provided as information from a single view point in a vacuum, we can only assume she is jealous. But the question is did she hold his hand in front of you? Or did you just hear about it and more importantly if you heard about it do trust the source?
Lastly he stopped talking to her after you got upset. You know what that means? He places you of more importance than that of the other girl. He broke it off because you were not happy. ** Lastly about the home phone number. That is a typical guy thing to do. Some girls we have no problem calling us at home or where we live because they are not of value to us. There are some girls in my social group of friends who speak to my mom whenever they want. There are others who are specifically stuck to my cell phone or e-mail and that is all.**
In the case of multiple guys at his house, he wants to keep his conversation with you private. Considering what guys say about girls in an all guy house, trust me he does it because he values your relationship.
And lastly and most importantly insecurity and clinginess are great things that break up a relationship.
In your specific case you tell the guy sure why don't we go together. I haven't seen her in ages as well and would like to see her.
Plus you have told him you think she has the hots for him right? That alone is enough to put him on the backfoot if you are there.
Thats pretty interesting perspective.
But i dont get one thing, if the girl who can speak to your mother or anyone in your home at any time, has no value to you? Is that what you are saying?
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The opposite. I didn't make the analogy clear. Those who can speak to our family have more value. More specifically we trust them around my parents. The few ladies that are limited to my e-mails do not have the same value.
It will of course change with time and as the relationship builds.
Edit: To make the situation as clear as mud:
Home or place a guy may live with room mates is not the same as our parents home. Where our parents live. Two very distinct entities with very very different rules on who can come.
If a guy is comfortable with you for whatever reason or whatever relationship, you should have free access to his parents home. Well from the Western perspective that is.
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^ That makes more sense to me...thanks for clarifying
So if its a house wiht all dudes...its opposite?
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If its a house of all dudes and I had a lady fair i was courting. You can be damn certain she would never see the house or speak to any of the wankers.
House mates do not equal guys you can always trust. Friends and housemates are not the same thing.
Right time for another lesson of Guys 101.
First question do you trust him? If you do, then you have nothing to worry about.
Second issue that of the wench herself. From what you have provided as information from a single view point in a vacuum, we can only assume she is jealous. But the question is did she hold his hand in front of you? Or did you just hear about it and more importantly if you heard about it do trust the source?
Lastly he stopped talking to her after you got upset. You know what that means? He places you of more importance than that of the other girl. He broke it off because you were not happy.
Lastly about the home phone number. That is a typical guy thing to do. Some girls we have no problem calling us at home or where we live because they are not of value to us. There are some girls in my social group of friends who speak to my mom whenever they want. There are others who are specifically stuck to my cell phone or e-mail and that is all.
In the case of multiple guys at his house, he wants to keep his conversation with you private. Considering what guys say about girls in an all guy house, trust me he does it because he values your relationship.
And lastly and most importantly insecurity and clinginess are great things that break up a relationship.
In your specific case you tell the guy sure why don't we go together. I haven't seen her in ages as well and would like to see her.
Plus you have told him you think she has the hots for him right? That alone is enough to put him on the backfoot if you are there.
Errr.. your fiance needs to be on that list! (girls that know your mother and have your landline)
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It is simple, if a guy want to hide it, there is no way you can find it... if a guy have an affair, there is no way he'll talk about that person/gal with his GF/Wife... golden rule, if a guy talk about a girl then there is no worries, you should worry when he try not to talk about her...
But girls will not understand.. they are meant to make things complicated