Am I overreacting?

[Spock]

@Curious Lady

That is not true. The girl could be being unreasonable. This can’t be generalized.

We put ENOUGH pressure on men, as it is.

As spoko’s issue is concerned, it is more complicated. If I were in your place, I would not like the girl holding his hand, and if she were hostile to me, I wouldn’t have a relationship with her. (The girl would kind be an ego-boost for me :p, obviously as long as my guy wasn’t flirting with her etc.)

I would ask that of my guy to draw boundaries with her, like not couple-like hand holding. Hand-shaking and other normal stuff would be fine.

What has he been saying about what makes it all ok? I would get his side of the story.

If the families are involved and you haven’t had any other major issues, I would strongly suggest against ditching the relationship just yet. Get to the bottom of his perspective about the issue. Ask him what he thinks about it. Really understand his point of view, before telling him that you disagree. Tell him what you understood of his view, until you get it right. By this time, he’d be MORE than willing to reallly listen to why it hurts you. If both of you are honest about listening to each other to RESOLVE the issue and not get their way, you will end up resolving it.

Sorry but holding hands, letting her flirt, calling him all the time, etc… .. you think that should be an ego boost for the other girl??? On the contrary it ought to be a huge red sign for her to have a serious talk.

If you’re a good looking chap with a decent personality, lots of girls show interest in you and if you’re committed you need to take caution. I dont think doing this is a little too much; anything for the person you love right?