Am I overreacting?

[gulab_jamun]

@spoko

Hi,

I am posting here after ages but I really needed some opinions from the wise people here at GS forums

I have been in a relationship with this guy for over a year and our families are involved now and it has gotten very serious. From day one his very good female friend had bothered me. She would hold his hands when they went out, call him in the middle of the night and flirt openly with him but was extremely hostile towards me. I told him how it bothered me but he kept assuring me that she was just a friend. He moved to a different continent for uni, and a month or so later she moved there permanently. They were still great friends until I bee-itched to the max about something a few months ago and he stopped talking to her.

Today we were talking at our usual morning hour when he mentioned how his ‘friend’ called him and wanted to meet up with him. I asked him why he even picked up her phone, and he told me that she had called at his home phone.

Now what really upset me about all this is that he had given her his home phone # when he first moved there, but despite me asking him repeatedly for it, he did not even give it to me until just a few months ago because he shares the place with a few other guys and did not want me to call him there. I asked him why he had given his ‘friend’ the landline number and not me, and his reply to me was, ‘us waqt u were different’ (his exact words). Us waqt, we were still in a relationship, and the only difference is that now we are taking that same relationship to the next level. He told me that I was overreacting over a small issue, but it has really really bothered me then how can it be a small issue? Am I really overreacting?

No you aren’t overreacting, given the red points…and your guy doesn’t seem honest…Soon he’ll be giving you the line “you aren’t giving me space”, you’re being insecure" to make you feel bad. It all starts with a suspicious “only a friend”.

If he loved you, he would have dropped her without you having to ask.! He’s smart enough to know that that friend is nothing but trouble, and will bring nothing but trouble given her past history (which I am assuming all happened within a year, because you tell me that this relationship with your guy has been going on for just over a year. )

My personal opinion, he’;s sitting there enjoying watching you be jealous for his ego boost, and that’s the only reason he mentioned the friend to you. he gave her the landline, so you wouldnt be able to track passed calls on his cell phone. And I wouldn’t be surprised, if this has been going on longer then it appears to you.

Bottom line, this guy does not seem worth it.