Am i over reacting?

I’m not going to simplify the issue because it’s a tough one. Maybe I’d react the same way if I were in your situation. But try not to make this the only reason to lose respect for your husband. Try to also focus on his other positive qualities that are not only a part of his personality…but that helped strengthen your marriage. Maybe this will help you feel more calm…for when you get ready to discuss the issue with him.