So I have my nephew with me sometimes. I love taking care of him and being with him BUT -
I don’t like it when other people kiss him, touch him or try to pick him up. He is barely 5 months - not even. I don’t know where they’ve been or their kids have been. What if he gets sick? 
Is it wrong of me to think like this?
Re: Am I Just Being Overly Sensitive?
Not wrong at all, sometime we human develop deep affection and love for fellow beings. On the other hand i love to kiss & bite and make clocks on the tiny arms of my nephew .. he is 2.5. But .. if anyone else do that, my heart bleeds..
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you can tell people not to kiss him on face.. you can tell them to wash their hands before they pick your nephew up.. yes I have been told to wash my hands and I have told several people to wash their hands so I dun think it's a big deal!!!
and if someone looks sick, coughing, sneezing etc... keep your nephew away from them!!
I thought this was just natural!!!
ps: yes I am afraid of taking my newborn to Pakistan for such reasons because people can be offended but here it;s a lil bit different!!!
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I don't think so. I think you are just being careful. Newborns don't really have an immune system like we do. Any doctor will advice you to be careful where you take that small baby out.
That being said, my own son is 3 months old... i am the opposite. I let everyone take him, kiss him.. lol.. touch him. The first time I took my son out was when he was barely 2 weeks old.. umm to Times Square. lol.. Now he loveeeeeeeeessss outdoors, he loves looking at trees, water (we live by the beach). When he was born husband and I decided we won't be typical parents keeping baby indoor all time and not letting other people touch him, take him. We want him to grow up to be a very social kid. At three months he has no issues staying with anyone at all. He smiles at everyone, people are amazed that he is only three months and so responsive and alert all the time.
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I've noticed that people who don't have a child of their own are usually very careful and a little nervous with stuff that you mentioned But i'd be worried if you act this way with your own baby. Us parents have experience and know that these things dont really matter much and wont hurt!
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I guess you are just being overly protective because you're being a responsible khala. Don't worry about it.
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I don't think so. I think you are just being careful. Newborns don't really have an immune system like we do. Any doctor will advice you to be careful where you take that small baby out. That being said, my own son is 3 months old... i am the opposite. I let everyone take him, kiss him.. lol.. touch him. The first time I took my son out was when he was barely 2 weeks old.. umm to Times Square. lol.. Now he loveeeeeeeeessss outdoors, he loves looking at trees, water (we live by the beach). When he was born husband and I decided we won't be typical parents keeping baby indoor all time and not letting other people touch him, take him. We want him to grow up to be a very social kid. At three months he has no issues staying with anyone at all. He smiles at everyone, people are amazed that he is only three months and so responsive and alert all the time.
Spiral, my nephew is a very social baby. He has never cried in the arms of a stranger and smiles no matter who it is. That's my issue because he is so happy with everyone that they just want to pick him up, kiss him and cuddle with him. Its so sweet but I just get a bit scared because his sister recently caught pneumonia from a class mate in pre-school.
I guess you are just being overly protective because you're being a responsible khala. Don't worry about it.
Niks, he was with me today and there's this lady that comes to the shop every few weeks. This time she was with her kids and they LOVE babies. They went crazy over Bilal and it was adorable. I just really didnt know how to tell them to stop without hurting their feelings.
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There's no need to stop them unless they have runny noses or are coughing. Really, if he's in the shop with you, he's already exposed to quite enough. Don't worry too much. Just make a good judgement.
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kids need to get sick with cold and flu in order to get their immune system strong...
here... if a kid has chicken pox... other parents send over their kids so they can catch it too... why? cuz its better to get it over adn done with. sound crazy? did to me too.. but it makes sense. why? cuz when ure a parent.. u learn a whole lot of stuff ... and do it.. even if it loooks crazy to a non parent.
my son used to catch a cold like THAT... used to piss me the hell off... but now... he has adjusted.. doesnt catch it so easily... if u bubblewrap ure kid... it doesnt even have a chance in teh real world
and dont get me started on daycare and school... jesus the things kids catch there... but its normal... its all a part of chlid development...
ive allowed everone and their dog to kiss midget when he was a baby.. as long as they werent blowing phlegm all over teh place.... im not saying hand over a newborn to a sick person... but a 5 month old is old enough to be exposed to little things like a cold or a flu.
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I agree with Khawa. I won't push my kid do be with someone who is sick but I agree with not to be too sensitive about your nephew. As a parent you do learn a lot, most importantly babies are stronger than we think. When you send your kids to school.. OMG.. my nephew was sick everyday when he first started going. Now after few months he is fine. He still gets sick but it has definitely improved.