Am I his girlfriend?

steph · December 4, 2010, 9:24pm

I know he likes me, he makes that clear. But considering the possible cultural differences, would a (non-practicing Muslim) Pakistani man *ASSUME *someone is their girlfriend (and how would they show it)? Or would they actually *ASK *you to make it official, like American guys do?

Specifically:

how long to wait for him to overcome any possible shyness, etc. What should be my limit?
Or how do you think* I could bring up* the awkward “what are we?” conversation without sounding naive?

libranrulz · December 4, 2010, 9:27pm

Re: Am I his girlfriend?

just ask him where do you guys stand ... wats the big deal

diwana · December 4, 2010, 9:32pm

Re: Am I his girlfriend?

Didn’t you open this thread OP?

http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/468745-how-do-pakistani-men-show-they-really-like-u-do-cultural-differences-really-matter.html

system · December 4, 2010, 9:37pm

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It will go very smoothly if you express your concern about cultural differences and you wondering what the two of you are. Your respectful concern is something he should know about. This one conversation will make many more future conversations a LOT easier.

steph · December 4, 2010, 9:43pm

Re: Am I his girlfriend?

I did, but I realized I overcomplicated my question before. I know he likes me, that much is clear... I just don't know if I should assume i'm his girlfriend or not.

I have never asked a guy "what are we?" so that's why that suggestion is easier said than done. Also, he's kinda awkward and shy (and so am I) so I don't wanna be too forward.

If you can think of a way for me to ask him tactfully, that'd be great.

diwana · December 4, 2010, 10:53pm

Re: Am I his girlfriend?

Try asking directly. He may have some answer.

See it all depends how much you are in to him too.

Dating relattionship is never so simple just to reiterate. You may already know that.

Lusi · December 5, 2010, 2:02am

Re: Am I his girlfriend?

If you are still questioning what you are, then I suppose you have a long way to go. If I was in your place, I would never ask a guy what I am. I will keep all my boundaries. I will def. work on growing the relationship but keep my eyes open.