Am I gonna be a "good" mom? :(

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^ I have no money and hubby doesn't wanna pay for my school right now. I won't get financial aid bcoz his income is good. In-laws/hubby won't let me work either :(

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Ok so you cannot study right now and cannot work either because of family issues (not that it should be an excuse in the first place).
How about going to community centers or libraries where you live (Assuming you are not in Pakistan).They have book clubs,knitting clubs etc etc....join anything...get off the sofa...!

You enjoy reading...??..Even if not,pick up a magazine...a parenting one maybe and flip through the pages...something will be there which you will find interesting.

You might not like this,but it seems like you are not too willing to take an incentive to fix the laziness and are hoping that it will get ok when a baby comes.

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^ I'm not making an excuse to not study/work bcoz of my in-laws...it is what it is :(
I'm in the U.S. I've tried going to the library, borders, etc but I can't do that everyday....again, coz my hubby/in-laws don't like it and I usually get taunts from in-laws so I avoid going altogether :(
You're right, I should read some magazines. I don't like reading but magazines I can do. I need to start somewhere!

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I'm like this too, i don't sit until i have finished my project.but when im lazy, i can be very lazy.

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Lucky you have a maid in USA.. I have to do all house work alone..

Which state r u from?

Try making ur self busy. When u r tired or feeling lazy, do sone exercise

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I only have a maid bcoz I'm lazy! Hubby doesn't like it and in-laws don't know it! It's just that I told him I'm stressed all the time so I can't clean....he expects me to get rid of her soon. I've only had her since the past 1 year, I used to clean on my own before.
I was in North Carolina before, moved to a small town in Georgia 2 yrs ago.

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Read books like "what to expect when you're expecting"! And if you're stressed about cleaning, how will you handle baby diapers, and piles of dirty baby clothes and the night awakenings and feeds. Nothing I find is more stressful than when your baby falls ill!
But have faith, trust Allah and hopefully a baby will bring much sunshine in your life

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Start going to the gym - it will feel like a ton of bricks the first week but you'll get used to it. Gym going people are happy people.

Read things you like...newspaper, magazine, etc.

Start teaching yourself something...sewing, knitting, whatever.

Go out for lunch with friends a few times a week.

You lead a very sedentary lifestyle which is pretty unhealthy. Unless you make an effort to change it, it will NOT change. And I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Its just that when someone is not used to activity for so long...the thought of actually being active is pretty stressful.

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agree.

Everyone here has given great advice...and Im kind of hte same way in that I have to have TV on... now I don't have a TV, haven't had one for years, but I put music on now...i hate silence.

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Thanks for the advice everyone! There's no "women" gym in my area and hubby/in laws don't want me to go to a mixed gym :( I better start exercising at home....about time! :(

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Only you can answer that question. Will you rise up to challenge and I think you will. Most moms do.

Laziness breeds more laziness. Same things with productivity. So start with something and it will turn the wheels in motion in the right way.

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^ Makes sense, thanks! :)

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so.. what did you do today beside being a lazy bum? :hoonh:

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Well, let's see....I made breakfast for hubby, went to sleep after he left, woke up, drank coffee, watching TV and online right now. Not productive at all....might go to the mall, don't need anything but I just might! I'm also kinda avoiding it bcoz the food court and all the food places are too tempting and I'm kinda on a diet :(

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If only I could have a day like that to myself sigh

Why don't you work online. You could even write a book, learn web design/programming. Take online courses etc etc

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We all wish for what we don't have. When I used to go to school/work, I used to want this kinda life too when I looked at others. But, now I want the opposite. We're never satisfied lol. I don't know what work I can do online :( In the past I've looked for work from home jobs, but none of them are for me and some are just scams :( I can't write a book, have no knowledge about web designing, and no money for online courses :(

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i think it is a bit silly to waste all your time, even if you don't want to do anything work-like, don't you think there are better things to do than watch tv and go to the mall? hmmmmm? hmmmmmmmmm?

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http://www.paklinks.com/gs/career-and-academics/557458-free-courses-offered-by-major-us-universities.html

It is free and your inlwas don’t even have to know if you decide to do one..!

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Tell me about it! I know it’s silly but I have no motivation. I used to be very active and outgoing before I got married. Now, well, it’s a different story :frowning:

OMG Chips! Thanks a lot! I love this site, so many things of my interest. Now, all I need is little motivation :slight_smile: