Am I gonna be a "good" mom? :(

[BusyBee]

Re: Am I gonna be a “good” mom?

@TLK

And you named yourself BusyBee?

LOL! Yeah, I’m busy watching TV all day! That was really funny though, really made me think what was I thinking

@Gemini_the_Great

why dont you make goals for yourself? try re-decorating your house? or switch the places for furniture?
Personally, I can be very lazy UNTIL I make a concious effort to get up and do something.. but once I do, I dont sit down until I have taken care of a project at least… I know someone who gets these daily emails from fly lady (flylady.net) and apparently she offers lots of tips for organizing etc and especially for small tasks! see if that works for you?
I dont think you will be a bad mom but you may end up being a lazy mom though, and then your kid will be watching TV all day long too!

I just procrastinate. I make lists and never follow them. I just don’t feel like doing it. But I’ve noticed that if hubby is doing something WITH me, like cleaning the closet or organizing his desk, then I don’t mind doing it. I just don’t like doing it ALONE. I just want that feeling of someone is with me. Like, if there’s a dawat and I have no choice but to clean/cook, I can’t clean/cook until the TV’s on. I might not be watching it, but I just want that feeling of I’m not alone…is that weird?

@somegroovychick

i don’t think its laziness. i agree with raania, it sounds like depression. that feeling of not wanting to get up and do anything, being tired all the time, etc.
before you conceive a baby, first you need to figure things out for yourself. you need to force yourself to get up and get out of the house. if housework isn’t your thing and you’re lucky enough to have a maid, yay! go for a run, go meet friends, go join a support group for other couple’s in your situation, take up a hobby, volunteer at the library- whatever it takes, get out of the house. once you’re out and moving and enjoying the fresh air and meeting new people, it’ll give you a fresh take on things and that always helps!
as for being a good mom, lady, you’re not gonna be a mom until you’re a mom. so don’t worry about these things- when your baby comes, you’ll see, he/she will get you into shape. i mean, i was the least housewife-ly person i knew before i had my son. i couldn’t be bothered with housework and cooking was a joke and i know that makes me sound bad, but it was what it was. i had a job, i was busy with other things, etc.
post-baby, and it didn’t happen overnight, but now i do things for him and for our family. i want the house to be clean so he’s not crawling amongst dust bunnies, i want him to have healthy home-cooked food, i’m so much more active because i want him to be busy and happy throughout the day. it’ll work itself out, so don’t dwell too much on it.
first things first- you need to get off that couch, turn off the tv, and GO OUT. find something productive to do with your time.

I don’t know, it might be depression but I don’t FEEL depressed. Stressed-yes, but not “depressed”…or may be I’m thinking of depression as something big? I don’t know. I don’t feel like going out either, unless it’s with my husband. I don’t like going out alone, anywhere! Like I said above, if my husband is helping me or doing some chore with me, then I don’t feel lazy and usually get it done and not procrastinate or get stressed over it. Same at my parents’ place…when I’m visiting them, I don’t do anything unless mom is “helping” me do something or forces me, It’s just that I don’t feel like doing anything when alone. Is it laziness or depression? Sadly, I can’t tell the difference