About 2 months ago, my MIL was going to Pakistan. One of my nands lives in Pakistan. A few weeks before my MIL left, we were talking and she told me that my nand had asked her to bring winter clothes for her son. My nand and her husband only dress their son in clothes from Canada or US, they never buy anything from Pakistan for him to wear. About a week later, my nand messaged my husband and said “can you please buy some winter clothes for my son, and if you are too busy, can you ask bhabi to do it”. My husband is just starting out in his career, and I cant work here due to visa issues. So we live on a budget right now (Alhamdulillah we are doing fine, but we just dont have a lot extra to spend extravagantly), plus we just bought a new car, and we are expecting ourselves right now. So my husband told me to go to the mall and buy $150 worth of clothes for him. I know its not too much, but its what we could spend comfortably at that time (because she wasnt going to give us the money, she was just expecting us to send clothes for him). So I went to Gap, Macys and Gymboree, and I bought exactly the styles she had asked for. We were planning on mailing these clothes to my MIL (we live in US, they live in Canada), but she asked us to meet her half way instead, because she wanted to meet us as well before she left. So we drove 3.5 hours and met her.
After my MIL was in Pakistan, my husband messaged his sister and asked her if she liked the clothes we sent. She never answered that message, and never said thank you for the clothing.
**a little background: my husband tries his best to keep in touch with this sister, since she is so far away. He also encourages me to call her once in a while as well. Whenever we call, she never answers, and then 2 days later will message us on viber or whats app with the same excuse every single time “my phone battery died”. Even when my MIL told her we were expecting, she didnt message or call to say congratulations, not even to her brother (my other 2 nands called me).
My MIL is now back from Pakistan. I was talking to my other nand on the phone, and was asking her what she got from Pakistan. So she was telling me what she ordered, what my MIL brought for her, and then she goes. “oh yah, I sent some stuff for “sisters son” so she bought me a couple of kurtas from Khaadi as a gift”. I didnt say anything to her, because it has nothing to do with her, but I felt bad for my husband. Leave me out of this, Im only her bhabi, but she could have atleast sent something for my husband - he is her older brother!!
Am I expecting too much from her??? The least she could have done, was at least say thank you for the clothes…or is that even asking for too much, since she knew were going to send because she asked for them?
I havent said anything to my husband, because its his sister, and if he is ok with the fact that she didnt even say thank you, then its not my place to start anything between them. But Im just wondering if I was expecting too much???
