Re: Am I being too sensitive or unreasonable?
Hmmm it’s a tricky one as having been on the receiving end of this kind of situation whereby people who don’t or won’t drive think that it shouldn’t be that much of a deal for you to give them a lift someplace, I know how annoying it can be.
For me, it’s not about the money - I would never dream of taking fuel money from anyone especially if I’m making that journey anyway - but more about having some ‘me’ time during the drive. I love driving, but find it irratating having a passenger with whom I feel obliged to make small talk with when all you want to do is crank up the volume and put the pedal to the metal. Also, it’s very rare that you are truely not inconvenienced by having to give lifts to anyone. Even if they make their way to yours, you can’t really leave or arrive to the schedule you would if you were going alone.
I would never judge someone or pass comments about why someone doesn’t drive though and I can see why you would be hurt by that.
Hmm that makes sense. But there would be others in the car too, and these are ppl i’m close to who otherwise wouldn’t be bothered by my presence. If I’m getting a ride from someone, I stick to their schedule…
^but isnt the friend also going for the party as well? How can she feel like Sara is using her? I think close friends even when they have the ressorces to drive on their own often go along in group for longer trips.
But agree, when she had said no, you shouldnt have brought it up again.
Exactly.
People sometimes don’t like changing their plans because of actions of others, especially when they feel its an obligation. In her mind she had a set amount of people who are gonna go with her, who no doubt organised it themselves. Maybe she knows all the other people really well and was hoping for a “their group” catch up and Sara is not from their group.
Do you know the others who are going with her Sara?
I’m not saying what she did is fair or right. Nor am I saying what she did is wrong. I’m just explaining how she may be feeling.
I still stand that if you choose not to drive you should also choose to not ask others for a lift for the sake of your own convenience unless they offer. not because its the right or wrong thing to do. Just because people sometimes have their own plans and you may be impeding on it. Or if its a good friend ask once. But only once.
Yes, I do know the people and like I explained above, they know me and otherwise wouldn’t have a problem wiht me being there. I don’t see how her actions or plans would have been changed…I don’t ask for this kind of favor often, so when I do, I would stick to that person’s schedule.
I’m glad to have gotten a different perspective.
Like I said…I’m still learning so it’s not like I absolutely refuse to get a license. I don’t always ask, some people offer and sometimes I’ll accept or refuse.