Am I being too sensitive or unreasonable?

[Sara516]

Re: Am I being too sensitive or unreasonable?

@Sweetmoi

If it doesnt bother you not to have a driving license, she has no right to have an opinion about it. I seriously hate these kind of people who have the attitude. Maybe she wants you to pay a cut? Is that whats bothering her?

That’s the thing–I drove in HS for a bit but stopped, and I’m learning again, so still in the process. But I still think it’s no one’s business. I’ve never called you to come pick me up at night, if I have to , I will take a cab, so that person has no right to complain.

@CoughCough

I think people get frustrated at the dependance.

The party is 2 hours away (there and back again) by car and 4 hours by public transport and you need to cab to and from station. Realistically if you don’t want to bug your husband to take you there and are not willing to take the travel time and pay for cab then your answer to the party invite should have been “Nah, I dont have a way to get there”. Your attendance at a party should not be dependant on a close person giving you a lift there and back, but rather you making your own way for the sake of attendance at the party. You should be able to “sort something out”.

Your close person is making it more complicated than it needs to be, but in these situations you should wait to be offered a lift rather than request for one.

You dont drive for whatever reason, thats fair enough. Many people choose not to drive because for them its just alot easier to get around with public transport. But with that decision also comes you relying and being able to handle public transport to get to where ever you want. Shouldn’t have to rely on another person (who is not your husband) to take you back and forth, even if its a close person.

I wouldn’t say its kanjoos, just how people are. Some people don’t like driving all that much and thats why they feel they are “used” when someone asks them for a lift. Others see driving as a pleasure and are more than happy to go out of their way to drive their friends. Also, I think its the fact that you brought it up twice. After saying you’d figure something out just leave it there. If she asked you again if you were able to sort something out, then it means it is in her mind that you needed to go. If she went further on to offer you a lift then it was obvious she’d love for you to come along. But I think she may have seen you as dependant when you asked twice.

Sorry, thats brutal honesty there.

Ok I get what you’re saying–so I don’t really consider myself dependent as such. I’ve been commuting in this city for almost 10 years, so I can handle myself for the most part…I take public transport on a daily basis, that’s just how it is for me and I dont rely on anyone else for the day to day stuff. Now for special occasions, like weddings, then I do find other ways to get somewhere…

When I brought it up the first time, she did say that she wanted me to come, that’s why I didn’t hesitate in asking her or bringing it up a second time. And she wouldn’t have been doing anything extra. I would have been going to her house and leave wiht her…not her drive to my place to get me so I dont’ see how she’d be “used”…