Am I being too sensitive or unreasonable?

[Sara516]

Re: Am I being too sensitive or unreasonable?

@redvelvet

Hmm, i think it’s human nature that if you do something just a couple of times (in this case asking for a ride)…the other person thinks you do it all the time. Or maybe she already felt a bit annoyed with having to drive other people (before you talked to her)…and then when you came along (considering you’ve asked the same favor before)…it was sort of like a “last straw” frustration. Add to that, as Coughcough mentioned, k when you told her you’ll figure something out…she assumed you did…and then asking her a second time made her feel a bit overwhelmed? Maybe it’s not that the “other people” would be bothered by your presence…but maybe that she just doesn’t feel comfortable with a crowded car? Some people (in this case the driver) are picky about space…“the more” …isn’t always the merrier for them.

Maybe she really wasn’t feeling frustrated (like she told you) and said what she did as friendly advice. Or maybe she really was annoyed. Or she didn’t feel like taking you. Who knows what her reason/motive was…you can only guess, right? You have more control over yourself than her. So, what are you going to do now? If this party means that much to you, you can figure out a way to get there without depending on her and telling yourself that you’re grateful she helped you in the past and that you have enough self-respect to not hear any more lectures from her…just shrug if off and be determined to have a good time at the party. Or…you can sit at home and simmer and develop a grudge…and if you consider her a friend, it’ll put on a strain on the relationship…and you’ll miss out on the party…and create more stress for yourself. Or…you can not attend the party, stop dwelling on it, and have fun in some other way.

yeah, no, i’m not gonna stress over it, it’s not worth the bad feelings and hassle.