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why can't she sleep in another part of your house so you can have your privacy? get out the portable mattress or sleeping bag. when our cousins would come over from uk, we'd all sleep in the living room on the floor.
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I understand that you feel more comfortable having the privacy of your own space. So, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to be reluctant to share your room.
You can talk to your mom about this issue...maybe another room beside your own can be used. Or aerobed/mattress, etc.
^If that's not possible, then try to be flexible. After all, your cousin is leaving the COMFORT of her OWN home to be there for you....during your special time/wedding. I dunno about you...but I definitely feel uneasy when I'm staying over at someone else's home (even a cousin) because you're more used to being in your own house. So, she too will feel a bit uneasy like you.
^ Remove any personal items from your room now...before she comes. That way you'll feel more prepared. If you start getting irritated and acting shifty/suspicious/secretive (hiding things)......she may assume that you don't want her around....and this can lead to unnecessary drama.
If you can arrange another room for her, great. If you can't, clean it out....and have some patience. She's not coming to live with you on a permanent basis...just a few days. Plus..sharing a room with her could get you used to sharing a room with your husband :p
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wow, cant imagine sharing my room...
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Wow. And I thought I was a spoiled princess.
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I disagree with everyone. It's YOUR wedding, it's YOUR special time, it's YOUR space. Tell whoever is in charge to make other arrangements for her and that these will be your LAST few days in your current home, you'd like to spend them with your space intact. It's not at all silly or ungrateful.
it's easier said than done. Desi weddings aren't about the bride and groom but the family. Although it sucks to have to share your personal space with this person sometimes it's less stress to just let things happen even if you don't necessarily like it than getting upset about something that is not in your control. We got my sister a hotel room before her wedding so she could rest and not have to stress. Did she use it? nope.
When i got married, my whole khandaan was staying at my parents house. I was sharing my room with 3 other cousins and it was alot of fun. yeah it was a bit annoying at times but it was defintly more fun that way. If i didn't have my cousins and relatives in my house, it would have been so boring and not really felt like a wedding at all.
Normally I like having my own space too. I never shared my room or bathroom with my own siblings. But wedding time is different. when all your relatives make an effort to attend your wedding, you should atleast have the courtesy to offer them accomodation.
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you need your space and then you want a husband on top of that? Tough call!!
It's not really a question of hospitality. I mean she has first cousins here, where she usually stays, so it's not like I'd be kicking her out onto the street with nowhere to live if I asked for her to not stay at my house..... it's just I don't want her to see my clothes before I wear them! Or have to sleep on a mattress while she sleeps on my bed! Little crazy neurotic things like that. And I'm aware of the fact that I sound overly finicky, but what to do?!
you don't sound finicky at all :( unfortunately there is littler that you can do about it EXCEPT tell your siblings to keep her distracted so that she doesn't do these things. Honestly she should sleep on the floor not you!
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desi wedding or no desi wedding...i disagree with anyone who is advising the sharing of the room....
this is a hectic time as it is without the added pressure of dealing with someone who is therw with you in your private moments...sorry but no go for me...what if i wanted to call up my in laws or hubby.? what if i wanted to cry, what if i had a lot on my mind and couldnt sleep...there are so many what ifs for which you might require privacy especially at this time that i do not recommend having someone sleep in your room
kheyr personally i wudnt be able to share my room under normal circumstances either...but especially not if i was gonna be a dulhan in a few days and had a lot n my plate already...
you gorls are friendly right now...but ;etting her stay in your room may end up causing some friction between the two of you...i wouldnt go for it
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buddy !!!!!!
I smell something fishy !!!
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Forget everyone else. Listen to what redvelvet said. Her advice is gold.
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Why don't you ask some common relative in town to "beg" her to stay with them instead of you?
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why dont u have one of ur siblings sleep in ur room and get the cousin to sleep with the other sibling? but i guess that would only work if ur siblings were female..
she's coming all the way... maybe she feels more comfortable with u then some of her other cousins. Take it as a compliment rather than she wanting to impose her presence on u or wanting to be with the dulhan.
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Yes.
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