Is it rude to say no if your collegues ask you to join them in the weekend for a fare well outing for one of them who is retiring?
I don’t really work there, I am only there for my learning period, I’ve only been tehre for 3 weeks and I don’t really know my colleagues, I don’t really want to go with them, but when I said no they found that strange…
there is another thing, my colleagues don’t really like me, for one reason or another, but today they were being very friendly, I don’t know why, I don’t want to answer kindness with rudeness… Allah knows if they mean it or not, but I want to be as polite as possible from my side no matter what.
I said no, should I say yes? I only really have the weekends now to spend the day with my kids and do all the laundry, cleaning up, studying and wasting time by enjoying a movie or something. should I give up one saturday for them or leave it?
if this is a new job, then I’d certainly say to make arrangements so that you can accompany your colleagues to the outing. You need all the opportunities to socialize to incubate better working relationships with your colleagues.
I can also say that they would have asked you out of courtesy so that being a new comer, you don’t feel left out… and hence you should perhaps accede to their offer.
Once you’re well settled in your job - at least past your probation / 3 month period, you can slowly retract out of going with them all the time and only make it a once in a while type of thing… and do let them know slowly and subtly that you need to spend time with the family etc. - I’m sure they’ll appreciate your openness and understand where you’re coming from.
maybe they are just trying to make an effort to be more friendlier towards you?? If i were you, i would go to the outing for a little while and then excuse myself early if i could to spend time with my family. Also, i think such events are perfect for meeting future friends or just get acquainted to people in the company. You never know who you would need or will work with later on. Socializing can be good for you to a certain extent at your work place :) Good luck!
Yes!!!
U Need To Socailise....coz There Is Nothin Better Than A Good Congenial N Friendly Atmosphere At Work
Since U Find Em Friendly For The First...they Might Be Expectin A Positive Response
Muslim Queen, I'm learning to become a pharmacy assistent in_sha_Allah, so it's not really a job yet. I have to learn to work in a real pharmacy for 770 hours, when I've completed that, my skills will be tested and if I pass the learning period is over.
Please pray for me that I pass it and all my exams.
InshAllah you will be fine. I think Umar summed up what I would have said too. I think people want to be friendly to newcomers, so try to go out once in a while, once they know you a bit, you can slowly just tell them you will be busy with family in the future. Best of luck.
No you was not rude but to merge in working e nvoirnment we need to cash every opportunity to socialise with the peopel concrened and coulleges. so we must try to communicate ourself more effectively so that others acknowledge our excuse but the best w ay is to avail such opportunities.
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