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When was this wedding? Couldn’t have been recent (you were quite busy on GS lately) which serves my increased dubiety towards the details of your narrative.
How old are the girl s brothers? Why would anyone enthusiastically admit to not having Islamic manners? Again, not surprised at your inclusion of the word Islamic.
If the lack of introduction on their part offended you, why didnt you simply ask the people you interacted with, to introduce you to the brothers? Or even your nephew? Neither you nor your family is entitled to downright attention and admiration from strangers. Did your family try to greet them? How about we reverse this up a tad bit? Why did your sons not initiate the greeting, given that they possess excellent manners? It is a universally basic principle to subtly approach and greet those who seem uncomfortable or shy. Confrontation is one thing but squeezing hands during a handshake is horrible manners in itself. Use your words, not your hands. This is something they teach in Kindergarten. No one deserves to have their hand squeezed by someone twice their age (or thrice in case these boys are minors). You need to work on your social skills.
Review your word choices targeting a Muslim community and tell us how you have the audacity to comment on the new bride having made a racist statement about your beloved Indians.
- Nikah
- Syrian girl
- Pak kids
- Ali
- Hassan
- Islamic Manners
- Dumb Hassan
- Racist Arabs
Because I take everything at its face value, I purpose two motives for this thread:
- To degrade Syrian Muslim community as having horrible manners
- To showcase Bobby1 in action at the verge of breaking young boys’ hands during a handshake with his commensurable strength.
Do enlighten me if there is a third.
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We had met Hassan and Ali onetime before when Wasif and Darin had invited us to their house and even then her family gave us a complete cold shoulder, this was the first time I was invited to their home, I tried making conversation with Darin’s friends but they would not reciprocate. I did not say anything and just went for a walk.
I was the grooms guardian designated to represent in Nikah and witness, I did go upto Darin and say to her mother that Darin looks like a princess.
We had invited Darin and her mom to our house several times and I prepared feasts for them and greeted them with a lot of respect.
They are Alluwite, a branch of Shias hence the names Ali and Hassan. Hassan was in the greeting party at the door so for him to look the other way was plain wrong.
The neighborhood I live in people even greet my dog and take time to talk to her and pat her. I am very patient and can put up with a lot of negativity but having my eldest brother who flew from Montreal, my sisters from Orange County and Florida and contributing thousands of dollars to the wedding and no one even saying hello to the mother of groom seemed really disrespectful and the ill manners are evident that they never sent thank you notes to any family member. The wedding was end of June. I went to get my medication from Wasif yesterday and he invited us to his wife’s birthday and that is where I am reassessing things. If anything Arabs are warm and gracious but not these ones.
This is not the first time I have faced Arab racism towards desis.
PS Darin does not consider herself as an Arab, she says Syrians are better than Arabs and does not follow religion so closely, they lived together for a year. there was booze (Thankfully) at the reception, belly dancers and perhaps the food was non halal but delicious.
If they really were racist as you are portraying them, guaranteed their sister would have never even thought about marrying your nephew.
I dont think they had any say in what her sister did. The older sister is married to a redneck and didn’t even do a Nikah. They might be just plain ignorant. Darin and Wasif lived together for a year before marriage. The brothers did not help in the wedding either.
You basically acted like a bully.
If someone …(even a relative)…ignores me, I don’t confront them and demand that they greet me. I do either one of two things. Either I greet them first…or I leave them be.
What you did qualifies as abuse. You stated that you squeezed their hand “hard”…and then you ordered them that they better greet your family the next time that they see you. You made a threat and you added physical pressure as well.
As hurtful as their reactions might have been, yours were no better…if not worse.
When you approach someone and demand that they greet you and give you attention…that person thinks, “Man…this guy is really desperate for my attention. I must have really struck a nerve with him since he’s so bothered by it. He must think I am really special/important if it breaks his heart that I am not even looking/talking to him.”
Either you be the bigger person…or…you leave them alone and show them that you’re not bothered by their behavior. Ignore them back and show them that you don’t care about them either.
Now the bride’s brothers are gonna tell her about how that creepy Bobby Uncle who pumped their hand really hard and threatened them to greet him and his family. And the bride is gonna tell your nephew and God knows how that will eventually play out.
Honestly, Bob, if you behave in real life the way you do on this forum…I would not be surprised if more and more people get turned off by you. It doesn’t take people long to put 2 n 2 together and figure out that someone looks down on them.
Maybe you need to stop going out of your way cooking and cleaning for people so often as then you develop expectations from them that they might not be fulfill. Limit your kindness. The sad fact of human nature …(that can be seen among people of ALL races and religions)…is that when you are too, too, too, too nice to people…you are viewed as a pushover and folks will take advantage of you.
Lastly, why the hell did you even feel that it was necessary to mention that Darin (whom you like) does not follow religion, and there was booze and non-halal food at the party. Lemme guess…this is just another example of your trying to tell us that the non-religious folks are much better than the religious ones. 
Also to let you know that it is horribly rude to accuse someone of lying.
First of all my sister, Wasifs mother is not just anyone, she spent thousands of dollars to fly here from LA and Wasif said to me that he takes me for a father. My brother is 15 yrs older and I made Harris massage his callussy feet every day and give him a good night hug. I am only tender with my family, if anyone else tries to disrespect my family I will run them over like a tank. Since my sister will have regular interaction with the family and I dont take a stand now, they will treat her like garbage forever. Darin’s mother expects Wasif to treat her like a Queen while they treat Wasif’s mother like garbage.
Also they gave our family a shitty table at the end and Darin’s uncles, mother and brothers sat at the Head table and Darin said it was an oversight.
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ggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg
Do not know why but your blogs and posts never fail to make me laugh.
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@redvelvet I plan everything and there was a reason behind asking Harris to rub my brothers feet, My brother now is head of the family so I had to show Harris to respect elderly, my brother took care of my father when he was disabled, cleaning his body fluids and all and also made huge sacrifices in raising his kids, his daughter became doctor at 22.5, will be a specialist at 27 making 500k a year. His son is young VP ay Bank Of America.
My brother did not make good money in life due to lack of confidence because of being abused and people in Montreal disrespected him, I thought a big athlete giving him the ultimate respect would be a great show of gratitude and respect. I also did his feet and leg dubbao. I also took him to mountains.
When I cared for my mother than I cleant up after her accidents and all and we should teach children to not get grossed out by older people.
I was so proud of Harris as he never had a problem massaging his feet. When Harris went to Nationals my brothers family came to visit with him and that small action has created a lifelong bond.
What is it with you and shoes and feet all the time?
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I find it intertesting that you mentioned your nephews a pharmacist but you support his pharmacy so iguess its relevant.
you should not have squeezed his hands hard. you should just let it go. I dont think this that big of a deal.
The next day they came to yell at me if they hadn’t then it would have been okay. It was a one-sided relationship anyways. I would cook for them and they would not bring anything with them like a bottle of wine, flowers, dessert etc. They seem very happy together so that is what counts.
LOL. For those of us that have been on GS from the time that Bob first registered …we have heard him repeat the SAME story ad nausam. The names of the people will change. But it’s always the same complaint. That he cooked and cooked and cooked and did sooooooooo many favors for so n’ so…and so n’ so…and so n’ so…and falana falana…and they all were ungrateful and disrespectful and gave him either no gifts or cheap gifts in return. It is so darn baffling that people would be so mean to him in the real world. I mean he’s such a charmer on the forum.
My western friends have been wonderful, manners and class are really important to them. When we invite them for dinner they never show up empty-handed, they bring wine, flowers, dessert etc. Many parents would drive Harris to competitions all over the country. Really did not have great luck with the community, I am generous so I cook expensive lavish meals like whole lamb etc and it seemed people would just wolf down the food, give a table-thumping lecture about religion while they are committing tax and welfare fraud and leave.
And there you have it. More examples of bias and prejudice. All Westerners who are not religious are above committing tax and welfare fraud. :k: