Am I a horrible person for inquiring about the guy's English speaking skills?

[Le_Pakistan]

Re: Am I a horrible person for inquiring about the guy’s English speaking skills?

@madz124

A couple weeks ago, I started talking to a potential rishta. The guy has been working in UAE for the past 6+ years and interested in moving to Canada where I live. I personally would prefer finding someone in Canada or USA. However, this rishta came highly recommended and the only reason I even considered it is because he hasn’t lived in Pak for the past few years so I thought he wouldn’t be a typical Pakistani guy.

Once we started talking (mainly on whatsapp), I noticed his English isn’t the greatest. I didn’t want to point it out in case he might get offended but I always wondered how the heck does he work there in an executive position when he makes so many grammar mistakes.

**Khair, the other day he said something I wanted to share with my best friend to get her opinion on it and instead of focusing on the content of the message, my friend laughed at his English which made me a little embarrassed. **And later when he came online, I couldn’t control myself and asked him how he manages at work and in his social life with less than perfect English and why is it still like this after six years of being in UAE.

Needless to say, he didn’t take that well and we ended up having a huge argument over something small. What do you all think? Should I have kept my mouth shut but let this bother me internally? Do you think it was rude of me to ask him or did he overreact (because honestly, at times, it is really hard to comprehend him)? My mom keeps telling me that I’m too picky and need to lower my expectations. He did seem okay otherwise, but I noticed he is short tempered and when he feels insulted, he makes sure to put down the next person too.

Hey madz,

Ofcourse you decide what and who is the best for you and no one knows that better than yourself. But don’t let an otherwise great/nice person go because of something small like accent or poor english skills. I am not talking about this guy specifically. Just general advice :k:

Also the highlighted part, (again generally speaking) don’t let anyone else’s opinion about something petty decide whether you want to proceede with someone or not.

Also, there is no thing as the typical Pakistani guy. Every individual is different.

Good luck with finding the right guy for you.